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I hope it is helping you to post and share. You seem very open and honest. That's a good thing. As I've said before, it's just very hard on this end. He says our relationship is on the back burner at the moment. He can't handle distractions until he gets what needs to be done finished. He...

I really appreciate it. This has been helpful. I know the hardest part for me is the lack of steadiness. He'll communicate and be wonderful then the next minute he is grumpy and doesn't have time for a relationship. We are still texting daily. I told him we don't have to make time to see...

Does it help knowing what may have caused you to isolate? I just can't imagine. I don't want to make it worse for him. That's why I think communication is so important. He's done really good at it. But I know it's hard for him. I want to be there for him as the good times are amazing. But...

It is a tough situation. We've talked some and I've gone to his work to see him a couple of times. He seemed really happy to see me. He said he'd come over and we'd spend some good time last friday. We'd talk, etc. He called and said he was really tired but could spend even more time with...

lol...I don't mind. I tend to talk a lot because that helps me. Yes his wife is awful!!! It's a long story but the worst she did was lie about her youngest having cancer to try to get him to stay in the marriage. So this young girl tells people that she used to have cancer. My sufferer had...

Thank-you for all of your responses. I know this isn't the same but I remember a situation that was very painful to me. Nothing related to PTSD. I was so hurt and angry so I wrote this letter. I think it ended up being 3 pages single spaced. I remember bawling the entire time. When I wrote...

I'm sorry to hear that. I know my bf had talked before about asking to be deployed just to get away from it all. I'm not even sure if it works that way. Ironically, his unit got orders to deploy in May. When he's not overwhelmed, he's good about trying to communicate with me. But it just...

That all makes sense. He says one day at a time...all the time :) I know he would regret leaving. He's told me before. He's very bad at confrontation. As a result, he has barely seen his kids since his divorce. His ex is very emotionally abusive and he has learned to just go along rather...

As far as I understand from him, he needs to focus during this time to get his thoughts together and unwind. I really am fine with him going for a drive to get away, etc. I just think him moving out was extreme. He just felt he had no other choice at the time. I had meant couples therapy but...

I am doing so much better this time around as far as I haven't hurt so intensely as long as I have in the past when he has done this. I am, however going through so many ranges of emotions. This is the first time he's done this since he had moved in. I'm angry that he was sneaky about it. It...

I'm really trying and this forum as helped me to keep my peace during all of this. He goes to the VA often and has another therapist that he sees too. I have asked to go with him but he blows it off.

Thank-you again. I get the stigma of mental illness. I have depression and it really took hold of me a couple of years ago. I ended up losing two jobs in 6 months because I couldn't get out of it. Employers really don't care if you have a mental illness that affects your job sometimes :-/

I'm sorry to hear. As a supporter, that breaks my heart too. I told him if he needed space to just close the bedroom door and I'd leave him alone. He's bad at communication so I had no idea he was breaking down again. I don't want to fix him, I just want to learn how to live together with...

It does feel like he constantly changes his mind. It's hard to keep up with at times. It's also hard to know which to believe. I guess he is still here. Even though he moved out, he's been in contact and tells me he loves me. He tells me I deserve so much better no matter how many times I...

I don't want to blame any of his actions on PTSD, but it sure helps. I've heard he's always been a bit wishy washy. But posts that I read on here mirror my life! We have been together over 2 years now. I don't know how many times he has left to get space. We have kept contact during those...

Good question. I'd like to know what others think on this one as I feel the same.

Thank-you. I do want to enjoy our time together. One thing we did was cuddle and talk with no reserve. Pure honesty without worrying if we hurt each others' feelings. He said if he moved back in that one rule he wanted was for us to do that regularly. Because it had gotten to where we...

I meant he asked why I didn't tell him I was mentally preparing myself for him being deployed. I'm just so afraid we won't resolve this before he is supposed to deploy in May. :(

So, my soldier is needing space again. It's been awhile since he's done this. We were living together and I thought it was going well. I came home friday to him sitting on the couch waiting for me because he had moved out. At least he gave me that. He told me he really loves me and wants to...

Well...we haven't really not talked more than a week. We are neighbors and end up talking. But as far as him being distant and very reserved with me, it's gone on for 5 months now. It just seems like he is hit with something very stress-full at every corner. Sometimes I wonder if he just...

It's been awhile since I've been on here. I had struggles with his pulling away and although I'm much better, I still have small struggles. I've given him lots more space. Now he's closing up again on me. He said he was exposed to many elements when he was deployed but he won't tell me what...

he has messed me up

What's so confusing is one time together, he tells me he doesn't want to be without me. He loves me so much. Then today he tells me he's put his feelings aside. I wish I could just put them aside.

I know we have had boundary issues. I am going to therapy to talk about. It's just when he started to pull away, I clung. I've been doing my own thing the past week. I got a new job I like better. I'm trying.

Great! my SIL just confronted me cause she knows I've been really down. She said I should not believe for one minute that he's not sleeping around or lying to me. That PTSD is just and excuse.