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Sorry to hear that. I also feel very hurt when my partner doesn't show me empathy. Have you been to marriage counseling? It sounds like from what you said earlier he at least does bring some good things to the relationship, things that are important and that other relationships often lack...

I'm sorry! I hope you let your family know how you feel right now, let them hold you and take care of you if possible for now. I also hope you are looking into diet and supplements to help your mood. There are lots of good books to help you with that like Trudy Scott's "The anti-anxiety diet"...

That's a bummer. I can understand how that would cause you to hold back your emotions. I found myself double checking to make sure you were the one with PTSD because I've read on this site that people with PTSD often can't deal with other people's emotions. Yet, you and Katz both have husbands...

Hi there! Sorry for the late response...I only just noticed your post today. I used the word "can't" in that way because that was what I read in an article about PTSD. I know every case is different and that some people feel love more than others. Also, I think the inability to feel love or...

All people are flawed. To err is human. You can trust that. I find that when I think in terms of good or bad people, it messes me up. Often, when someone does something hurtful, they don't even realize it. I don't think many people are outright malicious. I find comfort in being compassionate...

I'm guessing we've all numbed our emotions at times, but he does it to an extreme and for unusually long periods. It does make perfect sense to me that someone with this condition would do such a thing. But I haven't heard it mentioned much in the posts.

Perhaps it's a valuable protective tool for him that keeps him from getting upset? It prevents intimacy and closeness, but now that I realize how serious PTSD is, and how severely he is affected by it, I see that intimacy should be a lower priority than managing PTSD. I don't think he realizes...

I had that same thought. I feel so bad about how our society makes guys think they can't show emotion. It must be so hard on a person and their body to hold all that in. Emotions find their way out somehow and if it's not through tears it's likely to come out in a less healthy way. :T Is that...

For example, stiff, far away, emotionless, awkward. At one point, I thought my sufferer had Asperger's. But now that I've been on this site and have read a lot about PTSD, I know that when he goes into robot mode he must be disassociating. Still, I'm always wondering how much the way he is is...

Thanks for your explanation Junebug :) . I do understand how it's wise to have certain conversations/revelations about each other before taking big relationship steps. No matter how careful I have been I'm sure I will always look back and think I should have said this, I should have done that, I...

I just read all of the responses on this post, and: 1. I am surprised to hear people saying that you moved in together too soon. Since when is a year too soon? How long is long enough? 2. I'm also surprised to read some of the harsh reactions to your post. I had to keep re-reading it...

That is so sweet and encouraging to hear for those supporters who are with sufferers that genuinely do care and aren't just using them or being abusive. It seems the tricky part for many of us is being able to tell the difference. For me, if someone is sleeping around and dating during the...

That is an excellent way of dealing with this! What better way to get your mind off of him and remind you of all the other possibilities? "For those with PTSD, please DO NOT do this to loved ones without explaining what is going through your head and why you feel compelled to flee." EXACTLY...

I am so sorry. I just lost my dad in December. I think it's pretty normal to not feel anything at first because you're in shock. My heart goes out to you. <3<3<3

I forgot all about Lauryn Hill and that song! Thanks for the reminder. I'm looking forward to listening to her again!

That's exactly what I do.

I have these issues too. No PTSD but I did have an abusive childhood, with an alcoholic dad and two abusive older siblings. It's a struggle for sure and it's embarrassing. I'm trying to get better about being open about it because I know admitting things can take away their power in addition...

It is truly bizarre how it seems two (or sometimes more) completely different people can be housed in the same body, taking turns running the show. It's frustrating for sure. But, I guess when I think of it that way it can also help me to be less hurt. I can tell myself the person I know and...

@Zanshin - I looked up Meatloaf's song and can definitely see how that could be about PTSD, not only because of his stories, but the main chorus could be about flashbacks and feeling the memories as intensely in the present as during the incidents. @Junebug - I can see how the sinister tone...

I'll have to check that one out!

I was listening to Ingrid Michaelson when her song, "Breakable" came on. I think it's so beautiful and I was really struck by some of the lyrics. They made me feel like she's singing about my experience with my sufferer. The whole song sounds to me like it could be about PTSD.

Tryptophan supplements?

Too bad we don't all live in the same area so we could go out dancing together to get our minds off of this for a night! :)

I've been thinking the same thing. At this point he would have to gain my trust as a friend before I could consider a romantic relationship with him. I want to have my conditions for that ready this time around so that I don't find myself in another hurtful situation waiting to happen.

It is entirely possible that he can change his mind and regain his hope. People do it all the time, especially sufferers, who have completely different states of mind between triggered and non-triggered times. Do you think you could give him the space that he needs for as long as he needs it? Is...