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Self esteem, self love, a break and some counselling.

@lonelyheart83 I can hear in your words how painful this is for you. I'm a supporter currently processing what I'm assuming is the end of my relationship too. My "guy friend" always had regular long periods of disassociation and shut outs but it feels more permanent this time. Not sure what...

Beautiful, intense, angry, powerful, eloquent. Writing eases my misery also. Its all I have.

Immediately try to go back to sleep.

Clarity and a hug

@almosthappy so sorry you are going through this right now, I truly know how tough it is. For the interim, try to be calm and quiet for yourself. It will help absorb the "what the hell just happened?" feeling as your brain will naturally and frantically drive itself crazy searching for answers...

Lovely to read so many caring, positive posts. I simply give my friend space and put no conditions or judgements on him. I keep his personal thoughts and issues safe and in trust. I buy him his favourite BBQ crisps and chocolate mousse when I know he's coming over. I never freak out or make...

Hi, I haven't posted in a long time and sometimes just come for quiet contemplation, education or reassurance. But your post is so identical to my situation I just wanted to let you know there's someone else out there who's going through the exact same thing. My guy friend has been really...

Being able to read 'The Alchemist' cover to cover uninterrupted and feeling enlightened.

I would never want to give anyone false hope but the general pattern of behaviour with PTSD shut outs is that people do often return. Obviously varying lengths of time will differ from person to person. Some people speak of having no contact for hours at at time to YEARS at a time. I think once...

That's the pattern...

If it helps support you, I truly believe you have the right approach there. I say that purely from personal experience, it has worked for me to be patient and a stable constant. I cannot stress enough how content, happy and strong you need to be within yourself and own life with or without that...

I accept what he can handle/give. He too has gone quiet now, but that's a normal thing for him, when reality and emotions become very real and overwhelming. I don't check missed calls for him like I used to and don't feel the urge to contact him like before in a panic. Its quite calming once...

Just to add my 2 cents. As far as we all know this is a one life one shot kinda deal. I say, grab whatever happiness you can squeeze outta life. I am in a relationship nearly 2 years with a precious diamond of a man who happens to have PTSD. I went (still go through) exactly the same...

Do you girl!

I knew I had a sandwich there, where did it go....?:hungry:

Hi all, been a while since I last post a thread just wanted to come and share and pass on any reassurance if I can. I am sooo proud of my SO right now! We hadn't seen each other since early Feb (I still have a Valentine's card I didn't get to give him). In the last 3-4 weeks he reached out and...

The roof over my head.

Doesn't touch the sides. :eek:

I had a great day today! Cleared my workload and pretty much spent the rest of the afternoon laughing with and getting to know new colleagues. Smiling is good.:D:wacky::hilarious: Thought I would also share that here in the UK it is the London marathon this weekend. This years main sponsored...

@CC101089 I really have nothing to add to what @Snowflakes already said. It is sound advice. One simple thing I can offer you is to "react&respond" when he pushed you away, believe that's what he wants and stay away. When he pulls you back in, reach out to him if you want to. Until you can...

@grimalkin Thanks for sharing, life for you sounds really positive with exciting things ahead. That's great to hear hope it goes well. (BTW, 42? Are you kidding me?) Yeah you're still young! Its so nice to hear people focus on what they do have and appreciate the little things like nature and...

Exactly!

@Snowflakes you are so welcome and thank you :oops:. I get much comfort and perspective from reading your posts as well as others, too. I never expected to take this journey. Kinda resigned myself to 'singledom' after being treated badly a long time ago. I was strong and independent, going on...