Relationship So far, so good

[Glara]

Things are going well for a while now. It's easy to forget how quickly they can, and probably will, turn. For now I'm just living in the moment. I'm sure when the moment ends I'll be back on here trying to wrap my head around it all over again.

 

[LuckiLee]

Ah yes. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

 

[Glara]

I think the repeat is coming. At least I'm prepared.

 

[Glara]

So, it's happening again. He's picking me up at the airport but he's not really in contact with me. He got hurt at work a few weeks ago and will need surgery this week. That's on his mind. So I won't see him on Friday. I extended my trip to spend the day with him. He can't help it because he's having surgery. He's picking me up but not texting. I don't know if I should just tell him I can get the free shuttle and he doesn't have to see me. I don't know if he's trying to find a way out of seeing me but feels responsible or is forcing himself to see me when he's in a bad place.

 

[Buttercup]

If it were me, unless he specifically told you he didn't want to pick you up, I would continue as planned and have him pick you up. He can tell you if he doesn't want to.

Then be very light and thankful when he does so as not to add to his stress. You haven't seen him in a while and I'm sure you would like to see him, especially since you're not able to spend the day with him as planned.

Hope all goes well. Keep us posted!

 

[dulcia]

I tend to always build things with my SO up in my head before they happen which usually turns out bad. So I agree with @tlc in that keeping things light would be best. Try not to have high expectations for conversation and/or affection and that my help soften the blow if he is still distant when you see him. Good luck!

 

[Glara]

So he picked me. We spent some time alone in the room and then he took me to dinner and for a drive. He said he was going to wake me up early the next day and was concerned that my friend wouldn't be there that night. He said if I needed anything he'd come back right away.

The next day he didn't come by, or the one after. My last day will be today but he needs a procedure so it's unlikely he'll make here. When I said goodbye on Tues I didn't know it was the last time I'd see him...

 

[Linzee]

Things are going well for a while now. It's easy to forget how quickly they can, and probably will, turn....

That's the pattern...