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I ended up mailing a letter to her last Tuesday, and it arrived within a day or two. Pretty much all I said was I'm not asking for a reply at all, don't expect one, I know we can't be together, I'm not trying to win you back and I accept that we can't be together. I said here's what I felt...

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Wow, that's incredibly difficult. I'm truly sorry for that...and I hope you are recovering yourself too. I guess I'll have to accept that I cannot be in her life right now, and maybe, just maybe she will reach out to me in the future to rekindle things and maybe try again. I doubt that though...

Apologies for that. I meant to reference your comment that they're rational and logic decision making is different than mine, for your explanation that it's because of the trauma.

I can definitely believe that to be true, and it's a good hypothesis. She have felt fearful of me and my actions and needing to be validated and felt safe from someone she does not know much about can make her feel better. I guess I'll honor that. That said, I feel really bad I flipped on her...

You're right, I do feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. Which can sum up why I flipped on her when I found out she had a new boyfriend,. I do feel that she was sincere with it as she self harmed herself because of the stress and panic that was going on. But her being with another guy is just tough...

You're right, I do feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. Which can sum up why I flipped on her when I found out she had a new boyfriend,. I do feel that she was sincere with it as she self harmed herself because of the stress and panic that was going on. But her being with another guy is just tough...

Wow you're 100% correct. A lot of her decisions in the past she mentioned she does think many sense and still justifies them passionately. I am going to work on letting this go. And you're right, she'll never tell me her thought process behind it. And I won't hear from her ever again as I...

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. That's really rough. I can see myself becoming obsessive and will look into your resources as a means to help myself. I appreciate your support... I am going to look into therapists around my area and start going to help me heal.

I won't reach out to her at all unless she messages me in the future, which I strongly and highly doubt will happen.

And yes, I'm going to see a therapist soon. Any recommendations on what kind of therapist I should see?

Thank you for your reply and I appreciate your insight from your experience. Given the situation and updates in the comments, and the fact that she decided to be with a new guy days after dumping me, and said she doesn't want to be with me, is it worth trying to reconnect a month or two later...

The most difficult part I'm accepting and healing from is the fact that she told me she would be single and work on herself and heal when she dumped me, as she said she can't be with anyone right now. Then, days after, I find out that, her actions speak louder than her words and is with someone...

a bullet I have to bite*.

Wow, thank you for this. This really opened up my eyes about a few things. I'm glad you were open enough to my story from start to finish. We did jump into the relationship right away and found out these things as they came along, so it was rushed. As you said, the situation with her guy is out...

Well, she was dating her ex boyfriend (abuser for 2 years, and on-and-off reconciling things and her talking to him so he wouldn't kill himself), then it ended, then dated another guy sometime after, then dated me within a month or so after this guy. Her and I dated for about 3 months (tomorrow...

Thank you for your reply. I understand what you mean by having to take a step back and thinking that to her, to her interpretation, I was becoming abusive. I did not once hit her on purpose, demeaned her in any way, manipulated her, or hid anything from her. What ended up happening to cause...

*she knew she WASN'T being a good girlfriend and wasn't giving her 100 when I approached her about her lack of effort.*

Just for an update, if you didn't read my recent reply, please see the replies I sent to nymafin30 where I found she started dating someone new days after dumping me, and I messaged her and flipped out, and she blocked me on snapchat. I got really mad. I can't help but feel she left because she...

*I should also mention in her sharing of my pic on her Instagram, she tried shifting the story into saying that i believed that moving her arm and stuff was okay. And that I didn't know what I did was wrong, while I apologized profusely then and did everything I could to work on it. She still...

For me, after about 4 days after dumping me, my ex started seeing this guy whom she met online (OkCupid and I saw her look at my profile and saw her not logged in during the time she started talking to him). I flipped out and cursed her out and said she made a big lie and used my accidents and...

Thank you so much for your response. I sincerely appreciate your response and understanding the reasons why she triggered so sensitively to my unintentional accidents. I agree with all of your points For #1: I did noticed she started to sabotage the relationship when things starting getting...

I'd live with her PTSD, and made it work, even it became worse. I'm dedicated to this woman. But I may never have the chance to that and I have to come to terms with that.

I'm in a lot of pain so I'm hoping to heal soon. I have written a lengthy letter and I might send it out next week. Or a post it note next week to check how she's doing. Thank you for your response I appreciate it. I told her if she'd feel to text me, I'd like to check up on her. She changed...