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Hi sorry just responding to this! I haven't been back on this site since July. During my time apart from my guy we spoke zero times. I attempted contact I think maybe twice and only once did he respond. Our relationship is what sort of triggered him...he had other variables affecting him but...

Hello...sorry I haven't logged back on since this post in July! Me and my person with combat PTSD are actually in a relationship now...so things have been going very well with his PTSD. How are things going currently? I can maybe shed some light on the question you asked, but since it was a...

After 4 months of isolation, no communication, and a lot of prayers, my combat Vet with PTSD made contact with me; out of the blue. He owned up to his PTSD getting triggered, apologized for many things he didn't need to apologize for and thanked me for not giving up. Not getting back into a...

Triggers aren't always uncovered/discovered. Remember, a trigger occurs before the emotional response; so its easy to "see" the person's response i.e. anger, crying, yelling, hyper-vigilance, isolation, etc. And the person, who got triggered, will most likely be aware/know they are in an...

omg yesssssss. this. I struggled with feelings of loneliness and being alone most of my life (28 now) but by dating a PTSD sufferer has helped with that in a weird roundabout way. First time my Vet pushed my away due to his PTSD...my attachment issues were through the roof on the daily. But...

At this point in the game, I would say yes, its his PTSD doing the talking. Remember his PTSD has been triggered, which means that certain neurotransmitters on his brain are wide open right now and not shutting off. Kind of like a water hose analogy, at times water is gushing out of the hose and...

Hi friend, Your story captivated me and broke my heart, not many too many stories can bring tears to my eyes, but I can just feel your pain with every word I read. I have gone through a similar situation with my ex, who is a Vet with combat PTSD, he was an Army Ranger for 5 years. On top if...

Sounds like some anxiety you're going through and also some sort of "control" conflict going on internally. Can you recognize how you feel during these moments of being frozen?

Of course you weren't the enemy, you vet knows this as well, but he will make himself think/feel this way because you're giving him unconditional love and support. Its a weird concept because one would think "if someone really wants to be loved and supported, why would they destroy it then?"...

It's a good sign that he respond back to your texts....as far as "letting him come to me for convo in text first?!" There's not really one answer/response, in my opinion. It seems to be a common theme for PTSD Vets to not be connected to their phones or social media, so in that regards your Vet...

Haha well I'm glad you found it to be funny too. It's a good comparison sometimes haha

Glad your guy reached out to the VA. Remember, mental health is medicine, but unlike cancer or high blood pressure, you can't have a quick fix or correction. You can take chemo to get rid of cancer in as little as a few weeks or you can take one blood pressure pill and your bp can stabilize in...

What I've learned about combat PTSD vets is that during times they want to run and push us away, even those bs conversations are something for them, they might be lying throughout the whole conversation but at least they are speaking. Combat vets are almost like a toddler who's getting older...

hahaha sorry, wrong thread reply....of course I understand "yep" lol

I'm sorry, I'm a little confused with what you wrote.

Sounds a lot of my guy too. We would never argue or fight...I think maybe one time did we ever really get into an argument. My ex was my absolute best friend before dating, it was something that a dumb sappy movie could be made from. But that's the thing with combat PTSD vets in good...

You said "vet" so I'm gonna assume your ex has combat PTSD....my ex did as well. I was dating a combat vet and was broken up with and his PTSD had A LOT to do with it. the first time he pushed me away was an official break up....for about a month there was no contact, blocked from all social...

Like others have said it seems like he's experiencing some hyper vigilance, which of course if a big symptom of PTSD. However, yours Vet's behaviors appear to be some what of an "atypical" hyper vigilance. Traditionally, hyper vigilance is more along the lines of making sure your physical...

Yes talking to you :) Just wondering, but yes I would agree with the relationship progressing is a huge trigger as well. With my Vet, that is always a huge aid in pushing me away and him isolating.

Hi, thanks for the response. Are you military as well?

With your Vet, is it a specific date? Like with my Vet, its not so much a set date but, like I said, rather a generalized time frame. It's interesting your guy gets triggered around Veterans Day which carries over till after the Holidays....that is a lot like my guy. Like most veterans...

It's exactly like a death! I've been through unexpected/traumatic close death (two of my best friends died exactly 1 year apart). So, when he pushes me away, blocks me, and isolates...I get triggered with my own mild PTSD and always go through the stages of loss/grief. Just like a death. Nice to...

ugh weekends are the worst for me too! Mornings are rough too, right when I wake up my anxiety is up. Hate it.

Three years of push-pull dynamics and its painful. About 3 years ago we met randomly, it caught me off guard and was powerful. I've never been one to believe in "love at first sight" but when I met him....that was a game changer. It's hard for me to connect with people and I'm not much of a...

Going through this as well with my warrior. Three years of push-pull, same time each year. To say it is painful is an understatement; I miss him as my boyfriend (of course) but I miss my best friend even more.