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    Forgiving ourselves...

    I would like to be able to do that but I have a daughter who is so angry with me for my seeming complicity in the abuse, that it’s very hard to step away. She’s only 19 and I’m the only one she can direct her anger at, and I know, or at least hope, that she’ll forgive me one day, but it lays a...
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    Hearing music that's associated with your trauma

    My daughter and I escaped to a different country to get away from our abuser and the first time we heard our ex-house ringtone go off in a cafe, we both jumped out of our skins and I was ready to run!!! I only just managed to prevent a panic attack because, I think, my daughter was there. I can...
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    Dom Violence Years of one foot in and one foot out

    You’re never alone. Unfortunately, there are so many of us who have been where you are and know just how strong you have to be to cope with the pressures of change. But we’re there for you whatever happens. Sending you loads of hugs :hug::hug::hug:
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    Forgiving ourselves...

    Thankyou so much for your response, Vee. It’s really helped. My daughter is going to the States where she’ll be able to get therapy appropriate for someone with Asperger’s. I belong to a Women’s Survivors of Abuse Group and it does help to be able to listen and offer insights. You’ve inspired...
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    Forgiving ourselves...

    How can I forgive myself for allowing my husband to psychologically abuse my daughter for 17 years? I could go on about the mitigating circumstances ie he was an incredibly clever and manipulative sociopath, I was also being abused without realising it, he used his apparent mental illness to...
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    Dom Violence Years of one foot in and one foot out

    I escaped my situation two years ago and, even though I’m in a different country to him and still look over my shoulder all the time, the feeling of freedom is unimaginable!! Even though I suffer with PTSD, I’m free!! Imagine being able to choose how you live your life! The tensions and...
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    Dom Violence Two years later and things seem to be getting worse!!!

    I think you’re right Eve. It doesn’t help that I’ve got so much time on my hands while everything is being sorted out. I’m trying to do a course, and when I’m feeling more energetic, I go for walks and visit museums etc. At the moment though, I can hardly get out of bed!! Need to try to find...
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    Dom Violence Two years later and things seem to be getting worse!!!

    I read the article on the Stress Cup. It makes such a lot of sense, and makes your idea of stabilisation a good one. I’ll certainly look up the DBT skills workbook too! Thankyou again for you help Bearlinda :)
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    Dom Violence Two years later and things seem to be getting worse!!!

    Thankyou for your response, One step at a time! I haven’t seen the stress cup article, but I’ll certainly look it up! I’m trying to take care of myself, but I have so little energy, I’m practically comatose. I did force myself to eat, at least. I also put on some relaxing music and had a...
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    Dom Violence Two years later and things seem to be getting worse!!!

    Thankyou so much for your reply Bearlinda but I was escaping FROM the UK!! I do go to a Women's Support group for survivor’s of abuse here in Paris, but it’s only once a fortnight. I’ve met some fantastic women here but each person’s story can bring a lot of stuff up for everyone else. We’re...
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    Dom Violence Two years later and things seem to be getting worse!!!

    Hi! I’m new to this forum and I look forward to meeting and hearing from you! Two years ago I kicked out my husband after 17 years of psychological and psycho-sexual abuse towards me and my daughter. (Why it took so long to realise we were being abused and kept virtual prisoners is another...
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