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I’m sure he does not have a girlfriend. He goes home to have dinner with Mom and sibling, watches tv, relax and shower and bed. He’s at work by 7 am daily. On the weekend he sleeps a lot. I know he has a hard time sleeping throughout the week. I ask him what he like to do and I get crickets. I...

I get it, I don’t expect him to tell all that he’s been through. I feel like it’s hard for him to open and sometimes just express how he feels. He will share pictures when he was in the Middle East and he just is very reluctant I think to discuss his feelings.

I really appreciate all the feedback it has been invaluable, I hope that maybe he can move beyond non verbals and he can tell me what he really wants to to do going forward. Okay so this may or may not sounds like PTSD. The other day I met him at the train and he greeted me as usual, then I...

If this is the best - I would definitely reconsider. It would be a challenge for me to stay friends and not know more. We both would like to intimate, for me if I were not able to learn more we would not be intimiate. A part of me feels like even as a friend you can still share a bit with a...

I don’t drink at all but I would know an alcoholic, as I have family members. He will have a few beers watching the game which does not make anyone an alcoholic. He does not believe that getting drunk would help his condition. I believe he has PTSD along with the anxiety. If he was an alcoholic...

i'm sure he is not an alcoholic. he has been open enough to share documentation of PTSD and ANXIETY to me. I just find it strange that he at one point was okay enough to call me from his home, makes me know its possible. When he did call me and he spoke a little quickly which Ithink he had been...

I don’t think I used the word dating at all. We used to see each other everyday. I just took another job. We email everyday, he will call me during the day or I him but only at work. I think he feels overwhelmed a bit taking care of his Mum and a younger brother that his Dad kinda said on his...

Thank you very much what your saying makes since. I have told him that I am more concerned with him being happy. I never want to do anything to stress him or cause him to be uncomfortable and I mean it he’s a great man.

No he won’t

I totally understand, apologize I was not trying to be offensive in any way. I genuinely feel like a found a man that I love a part of me is so frustrated but a very big part of me feels like I could never walk away from him. I would not want someone to walk away from because I had a disease. I...

Thank you, I think the problem for us is he does not communicate in that way to me at all. Maybe he is trying to spare my feelings.

Maybe it was poor wording on my part. If he says that he wants to be better and I asked him about counseling and his reply something’s don’t need to be said - then he does really want counseling. Maybe I just want him to fight - I see sometimes he will fight for other things, even for other...

Can you recommend a good book to read PTSD?

Thank you I will

I just want him to let me in a little bit, I guess it takes time. He will Ben retiring in three years and I wonder how that will impact his mindset. I read quite a bit but everyone is different. How many good days so you have?

No it’s not wanting exactly what I want. If I ask him to do anything the answer is no. I just got a new job so I will not see him and now he’s like oh you deserve better... I’m just frustrated to say the least. I am tired because if it were me I would do whatever it took, but it’s not me...

Yeah that part I totally get that his Mum. I would never tell him but that what concerns me the most is what shape will he be in after Mum passes and I would love for him to get treatment before so he would be in a better space mentally. I feel like if I said that he would take it the wrong way...

No he won’t get help and no meds have been prescribed

Thank you - I don’t think that he will get help, he says somethings don’t need to be said. To me that’s cowardly but I don’t have a mental illness

I thought too - He lives in close proximity to him Mom that is still living. Essentially when his grandpa and father passed away he took taking care of mum and a younger brother that his dad asked that he look after. So he feels very responsible for them. He has dinner with mom. I’m surprised...

We’ve know each other nine months. No he will say things about coming to my place, but then he says he uncomfortable. I don’t want him to be uncomfortable. If I say let’s get something to eat after work, he’ll say no. Very structured from military takes breaks and lunch same time. We walk...

I understand the mental illness piece and that does not just cut off and on it’s permanent. I don’t know, I just feel like I can’t walk away. How when you see someone hurting, I’m can’t walk away.

The bad thing he works everday for the VA serving Vets but nothing for himself. Sometimes I feel like he wants to change but it’s easier doing what he’s been doing. If he keeps doing the same thing he’s been doing he never gets out of his comfort zone. I’m just sick about the whole thing.

He says that he loves me and it’s been a long time since he’s been in a romantic relationship. I just feel like he gets to appoint where can open up but then he starts thinking. When I email him things or talk to him - I see where it stops and starts. I really don’t want to fix him, I just...