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It could be it triggered memories inside of him that led him to respond the way he did. I know for myself, when conversations become a little to close to home on ugly feelings and memories it rears up an ugliness inside because it brings the abuse to the forefront and has to be dealt with again...

Yes, sounds pretty familiar to me! It feels like a gravitational pull on me at times when it comes on. Sometimes I can recognize it quicker than other times, but staying "grounded" with someone who knows me well and knows all of my past and life situations is SUPER helpful. Do you have anyone...

The cycle of non-communication coupled with feeling overwhelmed and needing alone time can really wreak havoc on a relationship when the two of you haven't been fully transparent. As long as you both feel secure and are communicating with each other to let the other know you are struggling, this...

I'm so sorry for your PTSD diagnosis and resultant challenges both day and night. That's frustrating and scary. I understand how trauma can becoming seemingly insurmountable mountain to climb up... but there is hope. It sounds like you've worked really hard in the past and had successes, don't...

Stress, traumatic events early in life can cause our bodies to react in terrible, scary ways that are really hard to "nail down" to treat. Our family was one where sexual abuse occurred and as a result, I began to have panic attacks, when I was in high school that caused me to feel like I...

You can move on, you can "let go"... many times, and for many people though, it's when you are ready to move on or deciding to let it go. Moving forward even if you feel like you don't have all the answers in place can be a very therapeutic thing. What does moving forward look like? Its...

GuyBloke, you can move on... many times, and for many people though, it's when you are ready to move on. Moving forward even if you feel like you don't have all the answers in place can be a very therapeutic thing. What does moving forward look like? Its different for each person. For me, I...

Missycat and Wonder Woman, I can relate to both of you so well. Totally get it. After experiencing CSA, I thought I had developed split personality disorder as I felt I was constantly being expected to live a lie. One within the confines of my home and the other the "outer world" face I had to...

Please don't torture yourself over what happened outside of your ability to change as a child and put added pressure on yourself about should have/could have scenarios of reporting. What is done is done, now acting on healthy things that bring you healing and hope for the future should be your...

These are very good questions and ones that I'm sure a lot of us have grappled with at some point in our past. I too used to feel and stay stuck in the litany of remembering the abuse and rolling it all over in my head until it hurt. I also know it got me nowhere, but feeling more trapped and...

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now. Trust me, you are not alone in your struggles. Have you considered consulting a counselor, more importantly one that specializes in counseling victims of sexual abuse? It could be very helpful if you have not. Additionally, I don't think you...

Probably some of the most destructive thoughts/words are those that are "would have, could have, should have" when it comes to abuse endured as a child. You were a young, innocent, trusting child who thought like a child and trusted adults around you to love you and not abuse you. That trust was...

I think transparency and excellent communication with him is key. I too was a product of sexual abuse and the key to mine and my husband's healthy relationship was to be totally transparent with him in telling him everything, all the pain, heartache and loss. If he loves and cares for you truly...

My sister was sexually abused when she was 15 years old. At the time, she felt SOOO alone and scared, like no one would believe her, unfortunately, it was our father who abused her. She knew she had to tell someone or go insane holding it all inside. She told me. I say all that to say... the...

Oh, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Many of us have had those same unsure, anxious ridden times parenting when we feel like we just aren't quite enough within our own skin type of thing. I get it! The mental hieroglyphics can really wreak havoc over time. Perhaps trying to start with the...