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Is anyone else experiencing a push? My partner retreated into his isolation way staying at his place after I made comments about his lack of social distancing last week and my concerns about not adhering to it and potentially exposing myself and kids. Now a week later he is feeling ill minus...

Thank you. I definitely never stood up like that before but enough is enough I dont like being walked all over and that is what I let the diagnoses of the mental health do. Well at this point whatever may be a contributing factor, you all have reinforced for me that one can control it and that...

So follow up. Holidays were...stressful! I think he was not in the best place and we all got the rollercoaster ride of emotions. He admitted to this and said he was following up with his prescribing doc. I asked that he try to be transparent about what was going because I was noticing that his...

That was awesome post. Thank you!

Late Merry Christmas to everyone. Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday!

Thank you for the alternative perspective and challenging. I gave my self the week to pull from my initial emotions from when I posted. I think that perspective you challenged me with is more conducive that my initial mindset.

Oh you have been very helpful. It helps to be validated or hear what already runs in my mind. He has always just makes me feel like I ask for too much which is reinforced with his "I'm trying. I'm making progress". Actually he bounced when I had a huge surgery. He took me to the ER and kept the...

Yes I agree it isnt healthy towards the relationship whether it is PTSD or not and I dont know why I'm so hesitant on just adopting the notion of to walk away. It actually infuriates me because I feel dumb but my child telling me his perspective has really pushed me to thinking that there isnt...

Well everything has been okay-ish, I thought we were one the same page with the conversations, however, one of my children comes home telling me he asked his counselor if he can attend a divorce support group at his school because it bothers him that the SO doesnt "live with us" and leaves for...

I give suggestions to him but he has to be in the mood to take them. I'll try that next. a warm compress. Thank you. Try not to worry. Atleast he is communicating it. Maybe just let him know you are there and if you can help to let you know if you already have not.

Yup I use military time for everything, always have. Grew up with it and it's so much easier, ha...plus work requires it. As for going places, I'm less frustrated now since he told me what was going on with his stomach (that was like three years ago that we went down the let's try and "fix"...

SO was out shopping last night... oh I can only imagine what he was feeling, poor guy, but he was out doing it. He made a comment earlier in the day how he dislikes this holiday and I said, "each person is entitled to their thoughts and feelings about anything but please dont pee in my cheerios...

No question is a dumb question. Father actually had parasites then was put on a medication regimen but still has episodes of GI issues. SO no parasites but what it came down they are dubbing part of the gulf war syndrome which OEF OIF vets fall under. The theory is when they were overseas they...

I have done loads of research and even contacted research studies. My SO and father struggle with GI issues, after tons of tests, diet, meds...they both still struggle. In a nut shell it came down to "they were exposed to something overseas", "its anxiety driven exacerbating IBS" all leading to...

Agree with prior response. I have seen this similar tendencies in vet sufferers but it was more anxiety driven/OCD-ish. My own personal experience at one point my anxiety was out of control and the repetitive showering helped my anxiety (grounding) but also made me feel clean because what I had...

Relationships dont ever stay the same. So the notion it will go back isnt realistic. Take PTSD out of the equation. Would you allow any other person to treat you this way? Whether it is PTSD or cluster B or both, things as you described aren't okay and no person deserves that. Red flags point to...

I feel you and your son going to counseling is the first step, but it is when you go and what mindset you have about the situation. You cannot "fix" this, but you have the power and control to give you and your son a safe home and safe life. I'm not one to speak in regards to my current...

I'm with you. As much as he says he is "fine" I'm noticing the same crud behavior creeping around. Very salty and angry. I think I'm starting to realize this will always just be this way especially at the holidays. Blah! Kiddos were all stoked waiting for him to show up to decorate, but I'm...

Sorry for typos. Fat fingers on phone. ?

Spot on. Actually had an hour long convo. Future oriented convo but it was sprinkled with some repetitive past themed irrational beliefs to stressors but safety was not a concern at this time. I actually ended the conversation because it was just too much and I was too emotional. We both got out...

Thank you. Your response couldnt have been at a perfect time. You are correct, the pain is horrendous and the thoughts that go along with it. I was holding it together until tonight. I decided that I cant stay in limbo and I was going to just put a stop to the possibility of keeping the door...

Yes I am practicing self respect. I guess what I'm having a hard time with is taking it at face value and realizing I have to move forward even if I'm not fully ready because he is showing me that he isnt able to reciprocate and I could be wrong but even if he is in a bad head space he would...

He says he has a therapist. I have never agreed with this therapist because this therapist markets itself as a life coach that uses mindfulness for trauma, but is not certified in any EBT modalities for trauma. Mind you, I wont go into detail, this area is my career and passion for helping those...

Oh yes. No he has no rights in regards to my children. They are not his bio children. He has been the only father figure but he has not rights to them. As for the other stuff when it comes to legalities he always wanted everything seperate so I guess maybe it made it easier for him to leave...

Thank you for the motivational... "get it together".