Relationship Stressed Out

[Rollercoaster4]

Is anyone else experiencing a push? My partner retreated into his isolation way staying at his place after I made comments about his lack of social distancing last week and my concerns about not adhering to it and potentially exposing myself and kids. Now a week later he is feeling ill minus fever and his coworkers have been symptomatic and sent home. I’m fine with the physical distance because I’m super fearful with all this and me having to still go into work. He has had this growing anger and hatred towards me for months but yesterday he was so hateful when I called to check on him. I told him I was going to take a step back because he snaps at me so much lately and it’s progressively gotten worse. His response, “your call but ok.” I don’t get why the anger or hatred. It use to be episodes over the past years to which I’d find myself
Posting on here to vent and not feel crazy but since December it’s been chronic. He tells me I’m crazy and asks me in a not nice way what is wrong with me when I try to tell him how I feel or I what I would like. Maybe this situation is making it worse right now but I feel deep down he really hates me. I haven’t done crap to him and I’ve been supportive and really stuck through some crazy stuff. It would be nice to just have someone that cared and was supportive all the time but really during this current stressful time.

 

[Ronin]

Hi...

So sorry you are being hurt, you did nothing wrong or are not doing wrong.

This sounds like it is him being abusive.
Him being abusive has all to do with choices and not stress of viruses or anything.

Glad you keep yourself and kids safe and please keep also feelings safe.

Breaking up with him is also within your right as there is a difference between just not being supportive, which is bad enough, and being hurtful days in and out, like he is.

 

[Survivor3]

Hiya @Rollercoaster4. That sounds like a very toxic relationship. My experience is that if your in a relationship like that then you need to distance yourself from all the toxic negativity. Be selfish and put you and your kids first. Be happy with your decision. You need to be healthy and happy as much as possible. All that negativity and aggression will suck the life out of you. All the best to you S3