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What I have realised is that the level of effect differs massively with each sufferer, my lady is very outgoing but can however struggle in a crowd and bed to "get away" . On the other hand she can attend meetings and sit talking to the whole group with ease. I believe that she pushes me away...

I joined this thread a few months ago for the very same reason, it has helped me tremendously. The honest and Frank input from both sufferers and supporters his helped enormously. Take care. Wow. This is so carbon copy to my experiences with the exception that we don't live together so she has...

Hiya, yes it's a constant struggle and atm I'm pushed away again and feel really anxious, it's getting increasingly harder to mention anything that is bothering me. The poor lady has just had 3 deaths in her list of family and friends one of which was a 6 week old Baby so I'm just trying to sit...

Oh gosh I know this feeling so well Hiya, I'm a supporter myself, I've been with my PTSD suffering Lady for a little over 18m now. The biggest hurdle I encounter is constant rejection but having to watch whilst she contacts other people, especially guys. I do think she loves me but nothing I...

Yes I see your point. I hadn't really considered it like that. We had a really nice chat by text earlier today and both agreed to sit down after Xmas and agree a few things.

Well what I've been doing is not contacting her first thing in a day to say good morning (we don't live together), if she texts me then il reply. I never ring her as she doesn't seem. Comfortable with it at the moment. I admit I used to text quite a, lot but now probably about 3 times a day...

Thank you, I'm actually fine with my gf having friends of both sexes, It is Christmas after all so we are both involved in activities that don't involve the other. Yes you're right, when I'm ignored it hurts, hopefully after the festive season we can sit down and have a proper chat about our...

Thank you for your advice, I've really tried hard to give kerry the space she says she needs, I don't contact her first thing in the morning like I used to but wait until later or for her to contact me. I've backed right off to give her the time to handle her other stresses. Yes she had plans...

Its only quite recently, she does have other stressful things on her mind though so I thi k this is something she feels isn't as important. My thoughts exactly, I feel that she sometimes uses her mental health as an excuse for how she treats me.

They are friends she has had for some time, I don't actually have such an issue with this, the issue is that I seem to be ignored before and after. I get that she needs friends she has no emotional attachment to. Right now i feel that it's a case of "out of sight out of mind". Take today for...

Thank you for your honest words and good advice. To be perfectly honest, no I don't hold her past against her at all and Do trust her 100%. I can't say that I like her past as it sometimes brings, me hurtful. Thoughts about what has had to endure, especially when we are intimate, but the is...

Yes thanks for that, I suppose a portion of it us just a normal insecurity due to our age difference and the attention she gets from guys her own age. I still aren't sure that it's "right" for her to be having coffees with other guts though, old-fashioned values I'm afraid. I guess it's a...

I think to be fair a lot of it comes under that "no emotion involved so no pressure" guide so she feels comfortable in their company or just to chat to etc.

To be perfectly honest, no I don't hold her past against her at all, I can't say that I like it but it is in the past. She has difficulty trusting men and I'm trying to show her that not all men are the same. She has said to me before that I have really enhanced her life and she feels cared for...

Yes I get what you're saying, it just hurts being shut out but then, knowing she is, spending time meeting for coffees with other guys etc. It's all a learning curve I suppose going forward. She did call in on me on My birthday with a card and gift which was really nice of her and I felt...

Thank you for your advice, it's a huge learning curve for me but one I am happy to take on to be there for my girl.

Yes I get that, I want her to know that she can depend on me come what may, I guess it will take time.

OK you lovely people, I have an update. Kerry came to stay with me last night like she said she would., the mood was a little distant as, expected but she started to talk unprompted . She said that my insecurities had been grinding her down for a few months, she felt that I didn't trust her...

Wow, you really are a tower of strength so that's a credit to you. I am just experiencing my first I stance of my gfs attack and its really shaken me. I hope I can become as, strong as you..

That's understandable but still heartbreaking to me.. I truly hope myrel with my sufferer doesn't go down the same road. ?

Hi there, thank you for your words. We'll a I can say at this moment is that the last 2 weeks have been dreadful but at least now I understand a little better. Hopefully we can gel again but given time, if the attack has died down and things aren't right I will seriously consider ending it for...

Yes I'm considering this, I. Going to see how this evening ties and if she decides to ope. Up conversation I may mention it.

Thank you for that, I love this Lady to bits so I won't give up easy. On top of the Ptsd she has other issues and to be quite honest I don't know how she manages to even stay sane sometimes. I wrongly believed that she would accept my help with open arms but I now realise its not as easy as...

Hi, I am struggling to find the thread "what are they thinking". Could you point me to it please.. Thank you.

She has been Getting therapy, and for quite some time I think but mainly to deal with the original trauma and subsequent demons attached to her sex work.