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So, I know it’s been awhile but things are amazing atm. I’m moved into my new place, and I finally feel peace. It has been an adjustment period for my daughter and I, but we’re getting through it. The hardest part for me is the lackluster effort by my husband to be a dad. He didn’t hug her...

July 27, 2021 With the help and support of family dear friends, things are looking up. I’ve been holding back my opportunity to grieve my marriage, celebrate the end of pain and bask in my accomplishments. I’m more relaxed than I have been in over two decades. Some ends are still loose, but...

July 26, 2021 Rental inspection passed, landlord handed me the key and said, “Put the utilities in your name and start moving in. I couldn’t spend one more night in that manifestation of negativity and abuse. The peace I needed hasn’t completely arrived, but the silence at night is the most...

I left him

July 1, 2021 Trying to stay positive today because I have an interview this afternoon, but after last night, my eyelids are so swollen that no amount of concealer will hide the pain. I have to someone get back to where I was and pretend to be confident while my insides ache.

June 30, 2021 When I said, “I want to shatter the cycle of abuse in my family,” I had no idea the amount of pain, stress and emotional flashbacks it would trigger. Today, my daughter and I spent the day with my mom shopping. We all had a great time until… I was looking for my ID in my purse...

June 29, 2021 The landlord is fixing the house to get ready for my move-in day. He is an angel in a suit who should receive the Humanitarian of the Millennium award for his kindness. Life is so strange to me now. I am still with my husband, but his lack of emotion baffles me. I’m not saying...

I realize that I am more than the horrible things that happen to me, and I’ve found a strength inside I never thought I had.

June 24, 2021 I’m getting out of this negative air. I can already feel the sun’s warmth on my cheeks. I found a place for my daughter and I to finally experience joy and peace. No more angry outbursts, no more cringy vibes; just her, me and (hopefully) the cat I promised her. I got promoted...

I truly feel for you! I’m in a somewhat similar situation, but my husband refuses to go to therapy. I’m getting ready to leave, and it’s been frustrating trying to find a place, but I’m starting a higher paying position soon that will help. I hope you find peace and the ability to eventually...

June 10, 2021 I am beyond frustrated. I’ve tried so many apartments that I just wanna scream. Either none are available or my income isn’t enough. He could make things easier, but of course, he won’t. We have an apartment upstairs; if he’d move downstairs, I’d pay rent but he refuses and I...

May 15, 2021 It’s interesting when you just let yourself go. Especially, when you have been abused and need to get that stuff off your chest. I spewed everything my husband has ever done to me in the past 25 years in a matter of minutes without even having to pause for a thought. I told him...

Thank you 😊

May 8, 2021 I have got to get out! I just found out that while I was in the hospital having back surgery, my husband was chatting it up with one of his ex girlfriends. The kicker? It was Valentine’s Day. It seems they’ve been chatting all day every day since November 2019. So much for the...

May 5, 2020 I truly understand now what the old adage, “When you love something, let it go,” means. I never thought I would wish for someone to let me go, yet, here I am. I can’t figure out why anyone would want to stay in a relationship with an SO that is unhappy. If the other party is...

Sorry, 😞 thought I saw somewhere we could do that on here, maybe I was thinking of something different. I’m on FB messenger or you can email: [email protected]

May 4, 2021 so much of my past co-mingles with my present that I have a hard time processing or hubby does something that amps my symptoms. I hate being trapped in this‘Purgatory’ of healing and not.

Absolutely 😊 Like you, I too felt alone, but I learned quickly that others have experienced similar and many in this forum have been key to the things I now recognize within my husband and myself. Feel free to DM me if things get rough and you just need to let it out 😊

So much of this sounds like my marriage, but he won’t accept anything is wrong and refuses to seek a professional for fear of finding out. I’ve been with him for nearly 25 years, and my acceptance of his inability to love me has caused me to start planning my exit. I give you tons of credit...

I can’t say I ever felt as if I was faking, but others tried to minimize it and make me believe I was because they either don’t understand or choose not to.

May 2, 2021 If I compare my childhood side by side with my marriage, it looks kinda like this: 1. My father never wanted to spend time with me 1a. My husband doesn’t spend time with me 2. My father physically and emotionally abused me 2a. My husband minimizes and invalidates my feelings...

May 2, 2021 Like a shift in time, no memory or mention how bad things really are. “Oh, it’s not that bad...” is a phrase I can live without; yet, the scary thing is he’s oblivious to how his neglect is abuse. He detests any mention of therapy, and I’m expected to put up with it 😡 Technically...

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My heart aches for you! There is nothing laughable about that at all. My father worked nights, and a few times he pulled my pants down and beat me out of bed. There is nothing funny about being violated and beaten as a child. Because our nervous system is developing, any kind of trauma can...

May 1, 2021 I see now as if wearing new glasses: the girl “surprisingly” sitting on your lap on our first date, showing up nearly an hour late our first date, the pretty blonde playing with your hair as I stood with my arm around you on our third date, the asking me to move in with you before...