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Hi. My heart breaks for you. There are online support groups for alienated parents. Maybe can offer a tiny bit of comfort? I'm concerned that it sounds like you don't have a support system nearby.

Attention is a need.

I don't think I understand how your therapists f*cked up. For "simple phobias" (spiders, etc.), "systematic desensitization" can be used (by someone specifically trained). I'm not sure that means other kinds of "exposure therapy" can't be used for things like social phobia.

When I was studying statistics, which I found challenging, I couldn't stay focused for the long exams. I didn't know about grounding then, so I used marijuana to stay focused. I hope you will use grounding (or something else, preferably recommended by a professional, which clearly I am not...

"...when you try to learn you either space out or you find yourself "drilling down" into the subject to the point where it doesn't make sense anymore (as if a fog has just layed over and you forgot where you were/what progress you did). As you can imagine this is very debilitating and I haven't...

"He became clingy and demanding to know everything I was doing under the pretense of "watching out for me and taking care of me"." Please - this is serious behaviour to watch out for.

I wonder if you want to look up "rational versus distorted thinking"? I believe it comes out of cognitive behavioral therapy. Things like "catastrophizing", "personalizing", "black-and-white thinking", etc.

I'm sorry that this is making you feel undesirable. My opinion: Society has unfortunately projected an image of men as being highly sexual so, when they aren't, their partners tend to think they themselves are undesirable, or have some character flaw. I personally dont believe in the word...

YourGuy, There is a major dichotomy among memory experts. Some believe the (popular to lay persons and many therapists) idea that people really do repress and can later recover traumatic memories; but many memory experts do not believe this is possible, or that it happens rarely. (This is why...

Fear of dying, and of the pain it will cause others.

You must have been a prodigy.

For some people, I think that just the idea of a way out can provide comfort, but it's also a risk factor. It's especially concerning if someone has formulated a plan, and has the means to act on it. It's important to get rid of the means in case you have an impulse. Self-harm (scratching)...

A couple times I've talked about my trauma, and my jaw started to tremble uncontrollably. Now that I write this, I wonder if it was maybe normal crying, as that's something I don't have that much experience with. The "adrenaline" they combine with "freezing" can make you shake.

I believe human behaviour is made up of genetics and environment (a basic premise of psychology); that, hypothetically, if two people had the exact same genetics and were exposed to the exact same environments, they would engage in the exact same behaviours. Also, I personally believe almost...

Thank-you for sharing. This information is valuable to me right now.

Yeah. Assuming all substance dependence comes from seriously adverse experiences (a theory I personally subscribe to), I truly do not understand how people can be expected to get clean without some sort of major shift in how they process their experiences. The awful things I've seen with kids...

I've no advice or suggestions. I'm just wanting to let you know that others experience the same thought process. I myself often wonder how others can be so resilient, who have been through unimaginably horrific things, while I'm a mess. But then I remember that trauma isn't the event itself, but...

Thank-you. I know a heck of a lot of mental health research comes out of Australia, so that makes sense. If other places still aren't offering this, I don't know where they're finding all these people with ptsd who don't have substance use issues. (Objectively I know some people aren't dual...

Thank-you so much for your reply. You must have access to quality services.

I was wondering what people's experiences have been with trauma therapists' responses to their alcohol use/dependence? Were the types of therapy deemed appropriate limited because of ongoing alcohol use?

To what do you attribute that those moments are fewer and farther between these days (if you don't mind my asking)?

I've heard of this depression that is resistant to treatment. I am so unbelievably sorry for your pain. Have there been any moments of relief from it at all?

Are you still feeling how you were with your first post? What would you say to someone else who expressed they were feeling that way?

Well, I can tell you one thing: You have the gift of diplomacy. When I was young, someone once said to me, "You act like every asshole you meet is the first asshole you ever met." It still holds true for me today. I very much wish for you that you, unlike me, will learn to let things role off...

I feel that conflict (even when you feel super hurt) doesn't have to be one person's fault. I really like that you expressed your feelings to your sister. I sometimes find that when people seem annoyed (in the case of your brother it could have had nothing to do with you at all?) it's best to...