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UPDATE: Unfortunately, I discovered this man that I was in love with doesn’t exist. I found out he’s living a double life and lied to me for the last 8 months. We had made plans a few weeks ago and he cancelled on me last minute saying he needs to catch up on “home renovations” he has been...

That would make a lot of sense! He does tell me he loses track of time/days when he’s overwhelmed.

@Brumbyinthesunshine thank you so much! Big hugs!! Everything in 2024 is wonderful so far and he’s been exponentially more communicative. Something I’ve learned along this journey is how much trust plays a massive role between a sufferer/supporter. I mean trust is a big part of any relationship...

I'm loving all of these responses! It's so interesting to see how couples dealing with PTSD make it work. It seems like it requires the supporter to have a great deal of forgiveness which, in turn, creates a safer environment for the sufferer to come back to...and an immense amount of love from...

For the sufferers that are in long-term relationships or are married, what has kept you from completely bolting on your partner and cutting off all contact at any point throughout the relationship?

Thanks for the info. Will start a new thread now :)

@KayW Very fair response. I will say that I've never brought up his PTSD because I don't think it's appropriate or my place to assume. I'm sure it's a really sensitive topic for sufferers so anything I know about what he's dealing with is because he has volunteered that information. I just pour...

I’m glad I’m not the only one that felt the previous comment was a bit insensitive. With that logic, no one should be in a relationship with a PTSD sufferer unless one is perfect and we all know no such person exists. To be honest, I wouldn’t be able to commit to relationship where I’m not...

@Freida and everyone else who contributes, thank you so much. It really helps me make sense of everything. Let me say that HE doesn't drive me crazy, it's the not knowing and lack of communication that does. I'm an only child (definitely not spoiled since I was raised by a single mom and had to...

@Derailed I'm going through something similar. We talk almost daily. He tells me he misses me regularly. He sends me relationship reels from Instagram. He made it official with me a little over a month ago but our "dates" are him coming over for dinner. The last actual date outside of my home...

UPDATE: He responded later that evening saying that he really appreciated the apology and loved my voice. He didn't know I could sing. He said that what I said hurt him pretty badly because he cares about me "A LOT" but that we still need to talk about it when he comes back. We've been talking...

I agree. I hope that when we have the opportunity to speak about what happened, we can also discuss why I was so frustrated to blurt that out to begin with and work through it.

There are a lot of incredible qualities about him too. He makes me feel in ways I’ve never felt for anyone. An example is if I’m in trouble or need his help and call him, he will drop everything for me…amongst many other things to list. To update, I may have freaked out a little too soon. He...

We’ve been dating for 5 months. We made it official 2 weeks ago. I get that it wasn’t a great thing that came out. Obviously, if I could rewind, I wouldn’t say what actually came out. In 5 months, I’ve been incredibly sweet to him and I slipped up. People say stupid shit they don’t mean many...

My intent was to say that him coming over is all we do and I want to do more than that. It hurt my feelings that in that same morning, I told him to wait on something until we saw each other before he left and he responded “Ok!”. To tell me he won’t see me just a few hours later was hurtful when...

I posted about a month ago of my combat vet bf with PTSD ignoring me when he’s stressed but I reached out to him and everything was wonderful until 5 days ago…. 2 weeks ago he called me his gf and we made it official. I was on Cloud 9. However, he sprung on me that he was going on an...

Thank you to everyone for the great advice. This is definitely helpful to keep in mind. Although a relationship with a PTSD sufferer can be challenging, I think it can be very informative and rewarding as well. I’ve learned about things I can work on for myself. UPDATE: With the advice I’ve...

@Friday I really appreciate your response. That makes a lot of sense. I’ve been trying to educate myself as much as possible since this is a relatively new relationship and sometimes my initial reaction is to respond as if he’s of sound mind and logic but clearly, with PTSD, those same rules...

I started dating a combat vet 4 months ago and he means the world to me. He made me feel in ways I’ve never felt for anyone. He’s made me feel safe and protected. We laugh the whole time we spend together. He’s become my best friend. I think I’ve fallen in love with him. However, he mentioned...