my flight instinct is so overdeveloped that it would take a prison cell to keep me from bolting. it kinda makes be gag to call my hubs a "non-sufferer," but one name is as good as another. by whatever name, it's all his fault that we have been married 43 years. he let me bolt, then let me wait until i was ready to tell him --usually long distance-- what it was i was running from. he's an uncommonly good listener and improving with age.what has kept you from completely bolting on your partner and cutting off all contact at any point throughout the relationship?
i don't care to run the surveys, but seems to me that rings true for diagnosis-free couples, as well. it is far easier to marry the one you love than it is to love the one you marry.It's so interesting to see how couples dealing with PTSD make it work. It seems like it requires the supporter to have a great deal of forgiveness which, in turn, creates a safer environment
actually I think this works both ways. There have been times I've had to forgive hubby for things he's said or done when he's been frustrated with me. I know it's not easy to live with a sufferer, but supporters can sometimes be the thing that triggers you. Especially when it's the "victim of living with someone with ptsd" day.t requires the supporter to have a great deal of forgiveness which, i