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Bananamango
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@Kubash16
I agree with you on this. I've always had pretty close, platonic guy friends all my life, mostly when single (but still have a few close ones I keep in touch with) and I've been sad that we as people, can't continue this as easily once in a relationship.
I have an amazing man, he fulfills me, great life partner, as close to perfect for me as I could get--but there are different things I get from other friends (female too!) as well that he can't fully provide. Some people might be upset by this comment, but I think expecting one human being to fulfill absolutely all your needs sets them up for failure. And, as you said, it's healthy to have good solid friendships. To be 100% reliant on your partner means total devastation with their loss.
I disagree, only because I’ve been in multiple relationships where the significant other is also the best friend and such. It’s healthy to a point and I definitely think there should be complete openness and trust there but I think it’s also healthy to have significant friendships outside of that relationship with both sexes. Dependency becomes an issue when the spouse is the only deep friendship.
I agree with you on this. I've always had pretty close, platonic guy friends all my life, mostly when single (but still have a few close ones I keep in touch with) and I've been sad that we as people, can't continue this as easily once in a relationship.
I have an amazing man, he fulfills me, great life partner, as close to perfect for me as I could get--but there are different things I get from other friends (female too!) as well that he can't fully provide. Some people might be upset by this comment, but I think expecting one human being to fulfill absolutely all your needs sets them up for failure. And, as you said, it's healthy to have good solid friendships. To be 100% reliant on your partner means total devastation with their loss.