Relationship Sufferers what is the one thing you wish your supporter would do or not do?

[Deleted member 12723]

I turn to you for support (most of the time), and not advice.

I really need this, I need understanding when I am needing some alone time to do what ever I want and then I will come back and rejoin the land of the living.

Fights,,I needed couples counseling to learn how to be a better communicator. Do not give me the silent treatment because I will not put you through that.

Do not sit with your hurt feelings for days on end until you decide you can forgive me for hurting your feelings.

I need to be able to resolve things quickly that is really important to me.

Keep on being your love able self. Have independent friendships and activities with your friends, go out and have some fun on your own. I can think of so many things, this is a awesome thread. One more thing have good boundaries for yourself Limits are a good thing. Time outs in a conflict are good.

 

[anonymous]

Don't yell at me, especially if I make mistakes or want time alone

 

[A concerned spouse]

I thought it would be a good thread also. Being a supporter, I know from experience when PTSD symptoms are at it's highest that's when we ad supporters get confused or hurt and start asking questions at the most inappropriate time. Some supporters like myself have sufferers that struggle communication to begin with and then throw in a triggets and a full blown PTSD attack with avoidance and numbness and the communication is non existent. So to learn what it is you need is so beneficial to a supporter. I appreciate each and everyone of you that have replied. It helps us understand a little bit more of what we try so hard to understand.