Recent content by Crazyme

Hi there. I know exactly how you feel. I too was in an emotionally abusive relationship and it took me a long time to understand what was happening and get out of there. I've been gone from him for 3 years, thought I was healed about 6 months ago, and then when I started to see someone that I...

My husband is a retired police officer and he's got it bad. This is the only place, besides personal therapy, that I have found.

Thank you all. Your posts have been very helpful. Unfortunately, I believe that me and my SO might have reached a point of no return. It seems he is an alcoholic and as yet refuses to admit it. Our therapist insists that he enter a 30 day in-patient treatment program before she will continue to...

Over the last several years, before he received a cPTSD diagnosis, I was subject to outrageous verbal and emotional abuse by my SO. I'm now on 3 different medications for my own stress in living like this and am starting to process this history with a clear head. It seems like now that he sees...

If those are honestly your only choices, leave now. No one can be repeatedly verbally abused and get out sane and happy. You deserve better than that and alone is better than that.

Wow! I hadn't thought of that, but I think you're absolutely right.

My cPTSD SO is finally doing well. He was diagnosed 10 months ago, received very little support - we were told just take a pill and it will get better in 2 to 3 years. He immediately got much better with rage and anger issues. Most notably, he stopped screaming at me so frequently. I thought...

You are not an idiot. And your husband's service does not excuse bad behavior. Get him help immediately and if he refuses, take cover! I have spent 10 years being emotionally and verbally abused by my husband. Finally he was diagnosed and I don't know if it's too late now for him and/or for us...

I thought I just posted to this, but what I wrote is not here now. @Sunshine71, I don't think that you should beat yourself up for what you did. I don't understand why there isn't more discussion on this site about emotional abuse suffered by carers/supporters. It sounds like you have suffered a...

I am starting to think that sometimes as carers/supporters we put up with what is, in reality, abusive behavior. I am becoming more curious about this in my own relationship and wonder why I allowed him to treat me so poorly for so many years. That being said, I think it is understandable why...

I have also found that the I have to talk to you speech puts him on a super defensive mode and then he starts attacking me. I don't know how to handle it, but that's just what I have learned lately.

I concur completely. I don't know what the answer is, but boundaries are very important. If he won't get help and if he's not even moving in the right direction, I think you should seriously consider moving on wit your life. I stay with my SO because he seems to be moving in the right direction...

I know how you feel because I feel this way a lot too. You are not alone.