General Non-military Tips Please

[mumof2]

Hi,

Reading through these threads I've noticed that the majority of supporters fall into two camps; supporting a man with combat related PTSD or a woman with PTSD from another cause.

I fall into the 'miscellaneous' category, trying to support a husband with medical PTSD, and while a lot of what I'm reading makes sense I feel a little distant from both the other groups. To be honest, finding this forum has been a huge relief as everything else out there seems to be geared towards either female sufferers exclusively or veterans.

Are there any others here trying to support a male partner through non-military related problems?

 

[mumof2]

Another thought, which I didn't have until after I'd posted, is that we were married prior to my husband getting ill and subsequently ending up with PTSD - any advice on coming to terms with ' the New normal' would be welcome. Being married to a completely different person to the one you let and fell in love with is so very hard. I know everyone changes over time, but at least for people in normal (can't think of a better word here) relationships it's gradual and makes some kind of sense!

 

[Mytime]

Welcome to the forum. Yes, I was married for 18 years before PTSD.
I know how hard it is to mourn a relationship loss and the changes in the person that you love. I'm here to listen, support and share your loss and confusion. :hug:

 

[Mytime]

I also wanted to say. With hard work on both sides, we are slowly getting back to us. :)

 

[Amanda7910]

My husband suffers from PTSD and he is a former firefighter. Between his 20 year firefighter career and losing his father to cancer- Mine and My children's (age 6 and 8) lives seem to revolve around his PTSD.

 

[Crazyme]

My husband is a retired police officer and he's got it bad. This is the only place, besides personal therapy, that I have found.

 

[Mytime]

I don't know about anyone else, but it's a hard hit when it comes out of the blue:(

 

[Tlzpm]

My husband has PTSD from childhood trauma. It is hard to find non-military resources (but I'm glad they're there for those military folks who need them!!).

You're not alone! Thanks to this site I know there are lots of us loving men with non-military trauma. It can feel lonely and isolating at times. Sometimes I start to loose my footing and believe some of the things he says when he's triggered. He functions so well out there in the world and can just disintegrate emotionally at home.