Recent content by DeedeeRSM

So my PTSD ex who has treated me like shizzle and who has the habit of dumping me then coming back has tried back in. I successfully told him no, and cut the attempt of contact off. Some of you have read my story, others you can check my history. He tells me I'm arrogant and acting on pride...

My ex told me about one of his trauma's one night. He never talked abot the trauma's, just told me he had them because of some reasons and it had caused him PTSD. We would get into long talks however, and he would laughingly call me his no. 1 therapist. One night, during such a particular talk I...

I think you should focus on yourself getting better and leave them be. It's none of your business to care for someone else while you have so much healing to do imo. Besides, she won't believe you, I guarentee it, and they will speak of you as being jealous, or nosy, or not over him etc etc. You...

Cheating is cheating, PTSD or not. Of course there might have been triggers, but for a person without PTSD there can be triggers to cheat as well, but it doesn't justify it does it? It's still a choice, a conscious one. Because interacting with another human being while knowing you have a...

Sorry op, yours looks more like an obsession...also considering how you write about it novel-like....now I am nit the one to preach on mental health, but if I were you I'd go see a therapist...

" You need to know who you are and be that person for you. What are you if you are only someone who is there for someone else. " a million likes for this quote by @digger1

I know that now..I know that since I've been reading everyone's stories here. But when you are with somebody who blames his PTSD for everything, does nothing in life for all of the mentioned in the quote, and you have no other example around, you have no choice but to initially think that how...

I'm sorry psychocandy...I know how a shut out or 2 3 4 5 feels...have been there multiple times. I got to tell you this though: read around this forum, there are a lot of sufferers who even in a shut out consider their partner. Who can make agreements such as telling their opartner when they...

Perhaps, I don't know. I don't like assuming facts which I have not seen. BUT I just read here that there's a lady with PTSD who just finished her masters degree and I was like wow...I can't help but think that there are choices and options whatsoever. The friendship is out of the question...

Hi Solara, yes it's me again. They were swept under the rug...since we transferred to being ''friends''....basically we just put it all aside and decided to keep it light. But as you see, unresolved issues from the past just bit me in the *ss. As I couldn't stay normal when hearing about that...

So my ex who turned into good friend in name, but actually we're still together, but with less stress and we spend less time together so all stays well between us. It has been an amazing couple of weeks/months. No nonsense, no stress for him, no sadness for me. We meet in weekends, we cook and...

This gave me goosebumps. guilt guilt guilt...its the emotion I live by since ex-suff. and I broke up. But then yes, it's his own responsibility to WANT to recover. Please don't laugh at me, but every time he calls me and tells me he had a rough night and feels so awfull, I feel like I'm leaving...

Exactly this....the whole 9 yards. I guess a lot of us empaths just don't want to understand that it will not change. At least not without years and years of therapy. Also, we forget/do not want to see that the person's initial character has a lot of influence on how they treat a relationship...

Thank you so much for your replies. You all are right, I must cut ties completely, but I still don't want to do any more harm than he already has suffered. I also notice that me losing my cool when talking to him does both him and myself more harm than necessary. Spoke to him today, and lost...

Hi guys.. Some of you know my story. I've been apart from my PTSD bf of 3 years for a month now, maybe a bit longer. We have decided that we will stay friends, as I'm the only one that knows of his situation. What I can't let go of is the guilt. He doesn't want to be apart. He doesn't want...