Recent content by Eleanor

I agree with everyone above. I will pass along the advice about finding a therapist that I got a long time ago, and has served me and others well. 1. Sit down and decide what is bothering you MOST what would make most difference to your quality of life. 2. Pick out at least 3 therapists and...

I was with my husband (cPTSD sufferer) for 16 years. The first year was great. Then when our daughter was born things got weird. He stopped having sex with me because he didn't want me to get pregnant again so... said we should wait until he got a vasectomy. Which he did about three years later...

Forum Friends, My dear dear friend @Pencil died of a stroke on Sept. 15. It was very unexpected. She was 61. I met her here on the Forum ... a long time ago, 2011? She was a brilliant thinker, writer, and researcher. She was a great mom. She was my staunch friend through thick and thin...

I heard this yesterday.... Shimmerzville for real? The Problem with the Solution

So. Habits we understand, right @Muse? You know how to break them?

For me the distinction between FEAR and PANIC is really key to understanding how to deal with traumatized people. Because what soothes FEAR (retreating and getting small) can often make PANIC worse. I have a cousin who is a pediatric anesthesiologist who LOVED this distinction because it mapped...

I like Panksepp better because he looks at how the emotions work evolutionarily - and because there is continuity between human and other animal emotions. I also like Panksepp better because he looks at emotions as part of a whole Process....

Jaak Panksepp. He has done a lot of work with dogs, and then a TON of rat work. Ekman went looking for basic emotion in universal facial expressions. Panksepp thinks of emotions as "emotional response systems" that reflect complex feeling and action potential reactions to environmental stimuli...

Ph There is physical pain. And there is emotional pain. All kinds hurt. But they are different.

I haven't read all the way through this thread but thought I'd just chime in ... I LOVED this movie. I use it teaching moral psychology. I think the basic model is right (and I do think there are "core memories") But the "islands" are a device that is needed because they didn't get the basic...

Hi @Abstract , doesn't look like you've popped in much since this... but let me add my voice to the chorus... you belong. And I ALWAYS appreciated your presence and thoughts. Communities need lots of different people and perspectives to work well. I'm not sure what your criteria for "belonging"...

Some random observations about guilt and shame. These are emotions that have certain kinds of "cognitive" content and are aimed a certain way. Shame is, properly, a feeling of detachment from oneself. It is part of the PANIC system (if I have it right) So it is about not being attached to...

@RavenGirl do you do croissant? Real croissant? Can you do the ones with chocolate and/or hazelnut in them?

Hi @scout86! Hi @shimmerz!