I have to come back to this
@Eleanor , thank you. :hug:
"When you cry, it's a way of signalling that you need help. The fact that you didn't get help when you cried is not because there's something wrong with you, but because there was something wrong with your situation."
I'm not sure when it isn't one's experience, how helpful that part of the movie was.
I know too, for me, growing up it wasn't just say, a fear of negative consequences to cry, but rather rewarded & reinforced as 'brave'. And as an adult, I've seen such crocodile tears, I cringe. A friend of mine said to me once, referencing his mom's funeral & others', "I find the biggest criers (there) had the least to do with the person in their life".
You have emotional pain when someone close to you dies, when you've very loved pet gets hit & killed by a car, when a loved spouce leaves you.
But ths is what I mean, such pain, is it not really a combination of the factors or emotions that cause the pain? Here, grief, sadness, despair, perhaps shock & horror, fear, with a death; in the case of the dog guilt; rejection or abandonment by the spouse, feelings of inferiority or failure, anger, disappointment, feelings of incompetency or fear of the unknown, etc?
If we do not look more deeply or ask ourselves honestly, can we ever hope to manage such pain?
But then again, do we risk losing the ability to live passionately, spontaneously, if we reduce our understanding to an intellectual level? I've heard it said we intellectualize to avoid. I do wholeheartedly think knowledge is power, but we're limited by what exists within knowledge, we can't recognize or name what we do not know exists.
Idk, I've heard people say we need emotions like a fish needs a bicycle. But a lot of the trouble seems to come from self-judgment of the emotions themself, or not recognizing them at all, or stuffing them, or beliefs about having them. But I think we need to live, with passion & conviction & awe & love & curiosity & creativity & energy, etc, like a fish needs water. (It's a shame- no 'fishy' emoticon. ;):) )
:hug: 's to all.