Childhood What Did You Miss Out On Growing Up?

[RavenGirl]

I missed out on feeling safe when my patents left me home with my brothers! Getting to pick the person for my first sexual encounter, having a parent say we believe in you, having a parent listen when I tried to speak up about abuse, getting to be a child with no worries instead of a small adult with all the responsibilities on her shoulders. I missed out feeling like I belonged in my family at all, feeling loved or even liked or wanted.

 

[Anrish]

I missed out to be a child / teenager.

I missed out that I'm allowed to make mistakes, that I'm allowed to be weak and that I'm not a complete failure when it happens.

I missed out that I'm okay as I am - with my soul and my body. I don't like any of it - because I was always told that I'm not okay.

I missed out to spend time with people, to learn how to spend time with people - because they avoided me or I was scared because of their badmouthing.

I missed out to find out my personal style - no matter what I did, it was wrong either way.

I missed out to laugh and have fun at school, go out with people and just have fun.

I missed out to fall in love (surviving was more important) and to have a happy relationship.

I missed out to do things just for fun.

I missed out so much stuff that is normal for others...that the list would become endless.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

@Anrish, I'm sorry for those things that you missed out on :hug: :hug: :hug:

I thought about it more recently and ended up with a list. I hope it makes sense

I missed out on;

Friends
Female friends
Birthday parties
Decent holidays
Time with my grandmothers
Siblings
Emotional support
Love
Attention
Secure attachments
Developing self confidence
A core self
Safety
Protection
Positive relationships with opposite sex
How to trust people
Good role models
Help when needed
Acknowledgement
Validation
Self worth
Normal sexual identity development
Social skills development
Healthy food
Clean air
Privacy
Respect
Honesty
Praise for doing well
Proper education
The gifts I really wanted for birthdays
Decent days out
Developing independence
Information regarding many important things
Friends on the same wavelength as me

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

I missed out but not anything like you guys. Feels silly and kinda ungrateful to say.
I missed out on:
stability
My dad
Safety
Respect
Not being afraid if my mother or her crazy mood swings not knowing what might set her off
Not being afraid my mother would kill herself and that it would be my fault (she said it was quite often)
Not having to apologise for being born and wondering what I could do to make her love and forgive me being protected from my siblings

Maybe it was a little worse than I thought. Thank god for my grand parents.