Recent content by Haven

That is completely true, and thank you so much for your advice. I really dont want a fixer upper. And it's true, that I feel like there was some deceit involved, even if he himself didnt intend to. I went on a date with the respectful guy already, I have another one this weekend. I'm going to...

But I guess it was still manipulative even if he had good intentions. Saying all those things so I would relax, and desire him more all while seductively whispering into my ear. It definitely wasn't clear. Even if he did ask if I was okay cuddling. He's either a complete idiot or a manipulator...

Thank you all for your responses. I feel like I've been defending him. I think in some ways he honestly thought he was clear, he just doesn't understand how misleading he was. I'm not sure if he misdirected on purpose. I mean when I asked him as he was taking me home what he was going to tell...

Hi, it's been a while since I've been on here. I'm just dealing with a lot of emotions right now. It's been 3+ years since I dated my abusive ex. Last month for the first time since my abuse I developed a crush on someone. I've has mild attractions before, but this was the first time I felt...

It's been almost a year since I high tailed it and ran from college because things were getting dangerous. Lately some things have been sinking in. I had to disappear from everyone I knew except my immediate family. Going by an alias, which is now so comfortable I forget my real name. I woke...

I feel like life has been a bit of a roller coaster of events. I wrote before about my trainer who yelled at me all the time. After Christmas break she was better for a little bit, but then it started up again, and it became hard to work. So last week I set up a meeting with my boss, and met...

Thank you guys! My supervisor has been on vacation for the last three weeks, and though it has been stressful because I'm doing all of her work and mine, I'm not worrying about her as much anymore. She did have a small chat with me before she left. She knows she can be difficult, and she doesn't...

Sorry it seems I pushed a wrong button in my reply! (I was trying to do preview, and it didn't work.) I had written a more thorough reply but I will summarize. Unfortunately my supervisor expects that after she's taught you once, or told you once, that you will be perfect. I'll ask her to double...

Hey guys! So I had been doing well for a while, but then things got hard at work. I keep making mistakes. I feel like I forget everything people have told me, people talk and I can't seem to remember anything unless I write it down, and my brain will filter things out so I don't remember what...

Thanks guys! I definitely think there are people who have it worse than I do. I feel like my own experiences has really opened that up for me to realize how bad things could have been. I'm pretty grateful for all the help, and support I got. I think it is true that we all deal with our...

So I recently had a conversation with some people that was interesting. I find it hard sometimes when people complain about little issues and act like their life is ending. Such as not getting the window with a view, having a cold, or their cereal wasn't at the store. Or worse act like their...

I think this is interesting. If you're genuinely trying to help your wife, then I do have some advice. I am a sexual abuse survivor and have PTSD. I will preface this by saying I'm going to be honest with you, so I hope that you will not be offended. 1. Please understand that all sexual trauma...

That sounds really hard. I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope you know, that we're here for you. I remember when I first started grounding it was really difficult. Beds were a problem for me too. I didn't remember my rape, so I didn't know beds would be triggering when I tried grounding...

Hmmm hypervigilance for me is interesting. Mostly exhausting. I'll give some background so this makes sense. Dated a psychopath, made people close to me believe him and used them to hunt me down and try to do things that end my life prematurely. So, I've had to move a few times, change my name...

I'm going to add my opinion here. First of all, I understand why you put it in 3rd person, and told it in a story kind of way. I do the same thing when I recount the events that happened to me. It's my disassociation. In fact I'm actually writing a book right now, about what happened to me, but...