Recent content by jmad

I am sorry you're going through this. I don't have a similar experience, but I have dealt with/dealing with a lot of grief. But let me share with you something that I hope you can relate to: the film Ordinary People. It's about a young man dealing with the death of his brother, whose death he...

I can relate. I also, growing up, 'provoked' my father and brother into beating me. I remember once getting angry and punching a window, cracking it. Boy did I get it that day. I don't think this is about control. Much like you, I rarely acted out outside the home. Something about this being...

Completely agree with both of you. My post really under played the severity and the outright abusive nature of the relationship discussed in this thread. Anger is a symptom, but how one choose to react to that anger is one's responsibility. Its a corner stone of CBT - separating the feeling...

Let me abstract my comment a bit. Irrespective of the case at hand, I don't think it is appropriate to say " I know someone with PTSD and they don't behave that way." I have two veteran friends with PTSD. One is withdrawn and isolates himself; the other constantly on edge and likes to get into...

I said it was irresponsible to compare two cases of PTSD. And no, both anger and raging (product of hyperarousal) are symptoms - this doesn't make it right, or ok, or forgivable. It doesn't mean that the OP should stay with this man.

Though I agree with many on here that the OP should leave her partner, and I agree that it is not her responsibility to "rescue" him - that is the job of mental health professionals, if he should desire to seek their help. I find the quoted post to be very irresponsible. People manifest PTSD...

Setting boundaries are important for your, and also, for the mental health of others. Sadly, many people have a hard time understanding mental illness. People also have their own reasons - not all of them healthy - for why they respond to "negative" sentiments. It is hard to tell. But it is...

I am sorry to hear what you are struggling, inter alia, to find a good therapist and psychiatrist. Sad to say that as the saying goes, Cs and Ds get degrees, and I see that in my own profession. I hope you keep searching and find someone who is capable of understanding you. I have also lost a...

First, I want to emphasize that you should seek a therapist. Long-term therapy will guide you on your path to healing. Second, I just wanted to share something with you. I too lost my father at a young age. I also learned about it in an off-hand way, a manner in which the pain of the news was...

I second what others have said: feel free to shop for T's. I felt reluctant to schedule two therapy sessions, too, but once i went through both and felt so much more comfortable with one over the other, I didn't regret it. They also are very understanding.

I hear you. When I saw the thread title I looked at the 7 cans of beer before me and I related. I can give it up either, even though my psychiatrist has warned me that it ultimately makes my mental health situation worse; some neurochemical process I don't fully understand. But I can't quit...

I second the point about therapy dredging up traumas. I was on the other side - I was hospitalized after a heated argument with my gf that led to me self-harming. While it was watershed moment in my road to recovery, the weeks immediately after were very intense and my symptoms seemed to get...

Welcome to the forum! I remember how used to tell close friends how I felt misunderstood, that people couldn't grasp how pained I was inside and how hard it could be to wake up and face the day. They tried to understand, but the truth is that this...illness or whatever you want to call...

I am sorry this happened to you. It will take a while for you to come to terms with it - and definitely seek and find a therapist. In the mean time, try as best you can to be compassionate to yourself.

From what I have read, the answer is yes. A wounded child often becomes a wounding adult. That's why so much of trauma is generational. If I can share a bit about myself, learning about PTSD, as well as attachment theory, has led me to better understand my abusive father. He was never...