Recent content by Kristen

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@padalac3 ...It did sound a bit harsh, but I do thank you for your advice & you are correct about a lot of things. I am in counseling & I am in the process of saving money to get my own place again. It's not happening over night, but then again, nothing does ...I am going to be ok. I know I will

Tina ....I strongly recommend you get counseling. Not because anything is "wrong" with you, but because what happened to you is not something you can tackle alone. Life is worth living, if you make it that way. I think what you don't realize is that you are NOT powerless. This is YOUR life & you...

@Tina Yeah, I see what your saying ...I don't "seek" these people out either (I don't think that any of us are) ..but somehow I attract them like honey attracts flies ....smh...

@Brucielucy ...I do find your comment a bit comforting in the sense that I am not the only person who has gone thru this ...I am happy to hear that at least you have your husband to come to your defense. ....My circle is a dot as well & even during times when I thought I found someone to...

Well thanks Splinter for understanding ....I didn't know whether I was alone on this one or not.

I frequently battle urges to be uncaring & selfish. I think about all the stuff that I have had to survive & all the hell I have gone through & how strong I've had to be & how many issues I've had to face by myself. When I was sexually abused, I was blamed & shunned. I had no one to talk to...

Tina ....I am not a counselor or therapist & I am not in any position to help you in depth with this ...but I can & am strong enough to lend you some advice & words of encouragement from one survivor to another. ...Tina, I understand how you feel because I have been there myself & have felt the...

Looking for some insight into this as I have had repeated patterns of running into toxic people. I've discussed it numerous times in therapy, but never seem to get any answers that actually make sense. I almost feel as if there is a banner on my forehead or something about me that draws toxic...

Coming clean to your therapist is VITAL ...a wound can not be healed unless it is acknowledged. I was sexually abused by my father from the time I was 4, til about 18, but didn't go into therapy or come clean with it until I was 27. Since I opened up to my therapist about what happened to me...

Yes, Tina ...it is I am speaking from experience ....I used to think it was my fault, but after starting therapy that burden was lifted from my shoulders ...it wasn't your fault at all. No you are not a "freak" ...your abuser is the sicko-freak ....the things that go on in our heads & go on with...

@cherryblossom ....thank you for the advice ....I really appreciate it ....I am very sorry about the fact that your true love died. I am truly sorry about that. I do however want you to understand that I'm not really looking for anyone to "save" me, I know that's no one's job, but I guess what I...

Wow ...I am sorry about what happened to you ....& life does seem very unfair, it always seems like people who are selfish/evil/manipulative get to live their dream lives ...

I had made my first post on here several weeks ago ....I initially opened up about the fact that I was sexually abused by my father & my mother knew about it & did nothing to stop it. In addition, I opened up about my recklessness with money, which basically forced me to move back in with the...

Awe, thanks @cherryblossom I appreciate your words of kindness & encouragement ...yes, I am going to be more responsible with money from here on out. I believe that I can create a better life for myself with hard work & making better decisions :) I will stay around, the support is extremley...