Recent content by LadyZane

This sounds so much like my boss (the owner of the company!!). I know how frustrating it is to be stuck working for a giant trigger who also happens to be a giant jacka**. It's so much work not to get upset on a regular basis. I've been looking for another job since July and the market is just dead.

I understand how you feel. I was also deliberately isolated by my mom, constantly punished and grounded for things that made no sense to me and could be completely contradictory from day to day, and told how snotty and ungrateful and impatient and argumentative I was all the time. And this is...

I have found counseling helpful to a certain degree but I really feel like if you go through enough stuff -- especially a combination of stuff, dealing with familial issues AND being HoH in a school that didn't support you -- it feels like your therapist can only understand you to a certain...

This is how I felt until I started taking antidepressants, honestly. They're not right for everybody, but for me, it was like, I'm intelligent enough to understand how to put all this in perspective, I'm motivated enough to try whatever I need to try to learn how to cope with it, I'm diligent...

It's not your fault you are physically injured! It's hard not to feel like a failure when you can't do something you feel you should be able to do, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Employers can sometimes be more understanding and helpful about these things than we're expecting to be...

Clinical depression has all kinds of catalysts, and a chemical imbalance is only one of them. A chemical imbalance is also not something you can just look at a person and see. Your mom is not a doctor. She is not qualified to make this "diagnosis." It sounds like she means well in her own way...

Thank you. This is all really helpful for me to think about.

... not that there is ever a reason to yell at someone. I'm really struggling with this. For background, I have complex PTSD from an isolated childhood of intense psychological, verbal and emotional abuse. I spent all of my 20s and some of my 30s in dead-end foodservice jobs because I didn't...

THIS is a great idea. The flipside of endless city walking is that 8 months out of the year the weather is terrible and we don't do it nearly as much, haha.

I'm an urban walker! Not a lot of trails or greenery, but miles and miles of possible routes that go on forever. Sometimes I wonder how much worse shape I'd be in mentally if it didn't take at least ten minutes of walking to do just about anything in my life. I don't have a tracker, but I shoot...

They give you therapy UNTIL they decide you're "unstable"??? Then they stop seeing you?? Horrible.

Yup. It's exhausting. I can do it 75% of the time and the other 25% ... I'm just damn tired

They spend more time at our side than most people, even family members. So of course we feel the loss so hard. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Maybe in time you'll be ready to give that same love to another cat who needs it.

I feel it all the time, and I usually just feel sad until I don't feel sad anymore. I don't know what else to do. I've managed to claw my way out of the deepest darkest part of the hole and now I have a career and a savings account and a husband -- all things I never thought would be possible...

I feel the same way. I was a teenager in the early 90s and all the artist deaths really skewed my idea of what it means to be a creative person. I thought of him as a "survivor" of all this too.