Recent content by Miss_Basilisk

Hi all. Am in need of some advice cause I have no idea what to think or do. I’ve been friends with this guy for over a year now. In all honesty, it started as just casual sex but we became friends too. Somewhere in mid 2019, I started to develop feelings for him. (Not something that happens...

I recently started EMDR for SA related trauma and it’s been very difficult. I was very aware of all the risks involved with it but I don’t really know if its worth it anymore. My last session, I had a flashback and dissociated. Since then, my mood has been incredibly low and the other night, I...

Hi there! I did not report my assault in the end. I have a lot of reasons for not reporting, mainly my hesitance to share the details of what happened to me to anyone besides my counselor. But, I do still think about it from time to time. I have messages from him where he basically admits that...

I was wondering whether anyone here has tried exposure therapy for like one of their main triggers? My rapist had a pretty strong Scottish accent and since then, whenever I hear a man with the same accent, I get nauseous and sometimes actually vomit. My counselor brought up trying exposure...

Sort of. My friend knew I was with him and I had messaged her after it happened to ask if she could meet me for a while because I was upset and didn't know how to explain what happened. I did meet her and I basically tried to act like it wasn't a big deal. I left a lot of the things that...

When I was assaulted, I dissociated for a bit of it and couldn't remember a lot from that night. When I started counselling, I recovered most of it though I still have a big gap in my memory. I should probably add that what I recovered was really traumatic to me and has affected me greatly. But...

Lmao what? Are you basically saying that being a convicted pedophile or even a non-offending pedophile is the same as being attracted to femininity? How is you being a gynephile even relevant at all to this topic? Pedophilia isn't some form of harmless attraction. Please stop trying to defend...

I'm so sorry for the late response. I know, hearing those words come from anyone can be overwhelming. I really know how you feel. About your family, I am honestly devastated to hear that. No one should have to go through that. Is there any way you'd be able to take time away from your family? I...

Hi there, I'm really so sorry to hear what happened to you. Please know that you're not alone in this and there is a great community on here that is very supportive and helpful. I can relate to you so much on wanting forget and remember at the same time but please try not to deny what happened...

I'll admit, before my trauma I had done sexual acts in public places (staircases, carparks, public restrooms etc) for the thrill of it and to me it was risky and exciting, a fantasy of mine. But after my trauma, I tried to have sex way too soon and one of the times was in public. (The back of a...

Quite common, actually. I still have a lot of gaps in my memory because I did dissociate at one point during. Since starting counselling, I have started to recover memories though. It's possible that those blank periods will be filled but it's really normal to not remember too.

Welcome! This website is really such a great community and I haven't been on here for long but everyone's really supportive and helpful. Explore the website, read through the resources available and you'll learn a lot about PTSD. Have a good weekend! (Also, hey we're neighbours! :D)

I'd say, work on identifying your triggers and maybe take a break from sex. I tried having sex too soon after my trauma and had a complete breakdown. I've taken a break since then and have just focused solely on recovery. I know it can seem difficult in a relationship but he seems to really care...

Thank you guys for your replies, I really really appreciate the info you've given me. I spoke to the lawyer yesterday and she went through the process with me. After hearing everything, I don't think I will report it, for now at the very least. Even just hearing the kind of questions they'd ask...

I've been going for counselling for my PTSD at a rape crisis centre here and my counselor recommended me speaking to one of their lawyers to see what my options are should I want to make a police report. They said I wouldn't be pushed to make a report and a part of me is inclined not to but I...