Sexual Assault Exhibitionism

[WishfulThinking123]

I was wondering if anyone else struggled with this desire to do sexual acts in public? What does this stem from? Is this normal? Do most people want to do this due to the media, etc...but just a few people actually act on it? I would really like people's opinions on this subject.

 

[WishfulThinking123]

Ok I just looked up exhibitionism and realized that it means exposing to an unsuspecting stranger...this is def. not what I meant! I have heard it used loosely as meaning any kind of public act. I didn't mean I want to do anything with unconsenting persons...just wanted to make that clear!

 

[anonymous]

I rarely post as anon but feel the need to here.....for obvious reasons, lol.

Are you talking about things like having sex in public places and naughty things like skinny dipping......where the thrill is in possibly getting caught? Cuz yes, I've had these fantasies for years now.

 

[WishfulThinking123]

yes but not only fantasizing but actually acting them out? I was wondering if I should have posted in anonymous? lol oh well... just wondering if in reality this is actually more common than people admit?

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

In my younger days....early 20's (after being sexually abused as a child, and later raped multiple times as a teen, then domestically abused for several years after that)...I was very much into doing things that should be kept private in some of the most risque places ever. However, I had to be heavily under the influence of alcohol and other mind altering substances to actually follow through. The thrill of the thought of it kept me wired for days until it would happen. I recall always feeling pretty let down by the whole thing once it was over, though. I guess with the combination of the hangover effects and being with yet another male who didn't give a shit about me other than my openness to exploring kink and such that he likely couldn't talk anyone else into drained my energy supply more than I ever realized.

 

[illusionist]

I believe its a pretty common fantasy, and has been, long before today....maybe today's internet etc encourages people to actually act it out, with mixed after effects.

The places I've been, the audiences I've ' entertained ' the naughty things I've done.....all in my mind....but wow! What a place to be!!!!!!

 

[anonymous]

yes but not only fantasizing but actually acting them out? I was wondering if I should have...

Yes.....lets just say I have a willing and able partner who is on board with this type of behavior. He is all for these types of activities. So while I haven't actually done these things in public before, chances are that I will be at some point.....or at least that's the plan. ;)

 

[Kintsugi]

I've had sex in a lot of public spaces. I don't think it's connected to my trauma, though. Btw, I highly recommend the Grand Canyon.

 

[WishfulThinking123]

How do you know if it is connected to trauma?

 

[Miss_Basilisk]

I'll admit, before my trauma I had done sexual acts in public places (staircases, carparks, public restrooms etc) for the thrill of it and to me it was risky and exciting, a fantasy of mine.

But after my trauma, I tried to have sex way too soon and one of the times was in public. (The back of a building really late at night) And in that one instance, it was motivated by trauma. For me personally, I was verbally abused during my trauma (being called a slut and whore, loving attention bla bla) and I don't really know how to explain it but doing that in public was kinda like enforcing to myself that I was all those thing? I'm probably not really explaining it properly but it was kind of a way to punish myself for what had happened to me and tell myself that I deserved it.

I'm sure it would differ from each person's experience of trauma but I think you would really be able to tell if it was influenced by that. I think you could determine whether it's influenced by trauma if you really think about the pleasure you think you'd feel from exhibitionism.

I do believe it's a pretty common fantasy though cause of the risk factor and the adrenaline rush you get. I also know quite a few people who've done it too

 

[Kintsugi]

@WishfulThinking123 I guess I couldn't know for certain since my primary trauma occurred at such a young age, but I would suspect the involvement of trauma much more if it felt like a behavior that was intentionally risk-taking and self-destructive/debasing rather than what I feel it to be, which is fun. Having sex in public places is sort of like saying "f*ck that noise" at a dinner party--inappropriate, scandalous, but ultimately something I think I'd do regardless of my history, because sometimes I just like to shake stuff up. ;)

 

[WishfulThinking123]

but I would suspect the involvement of trauma much more if it felt like a behavior that was intentionally risk-taking and self-destructive/debasing

Thank you! I appreciate your perspective, my T has always I guess kind of insinuated/stated that it makes sense what I did due to my previous trauma. However, lately I have been feeling bad about even being upset at all about what happened to me as a kid thinking it was so minor- sexual in nature though. However, in college I did these things to purposefully be self destructive/risk taking behavior. I still have this want/desire for all sorts of things and I think it goes past just having fun for me to the more self destructive/intentionally risk taking behaviors.

I do believe it's a pretty common fantasy though cause of the risk factor and the adrenaline rush you get. I also know quite a few people who've done it too

Thank you also for your perspective. I have always enjoyed the adrenaline rush from it as well. But it also goes way beyond for me as to where/what I do in public- a lot of times being the one who initiates. I think I have used it as a way to try to degrade myself and show to myself I am only a slut and a whore nothing more- Please no one take offense to this I don't think this behavior equates that I am just saying what my subconscious is trying to do.