Recent content by NewBeginnings

Sorry for your situation. Finances bring up lots of baggage- not trying to make excuses but I struggle on the other side of this- hard to admit that we make less money- not wanting to disappoint- many men believe that they should be the provider so it can be a double whammy. Not saying this was...

Choice -therapy is a choice in my opinion. Just like we can choose to eat ice cream 24/7 and feel lousy, we can choose to make smarter choices and feel better. If we break an arm hopefully we are gentle and kind to ourselves and allow ourselves to heal. When our brains are hurt we need to be...

So sorry to hear. You are not alone. I am sure there are others who have experienced same sex trauma in childhood. My experience was layered upon a childhood of csa - when I was in college I was manipulated and blackmailed by a woman. I got really drunk and she did all sorts of sexual things- i...

Not trying to whine but therapy has been really tough - I want to move on and I can’t seem to figure out how to just leave well enough alone. My adoptive father was really inappropriate (he taught me how to masterbate and did other stuff) - I didn’t stop him or think it was wrong- then I had...

@leehalf @A concerned spouse @scout86 Thank you all! Thanks for support and encouragement. I think I have a new husband! It is shocking And amazing how my mood has shifted as a result. He has been helping with dishes- making dinners some night (yes plural). I said to him that I really liked...

I am not sure what I do but it is not positive. I have asked my therapist why she is kind and nice. I acuused her of doing that because it is her job. I have challenged her and said she doesn’t mean to say “xyz and she is trying to trick me. I have asked her to be angry with me and that I am...

Hi - clutter is so sofocating. It is a huge burden and feels like it will take an eternity but I guess it would be a goal and one to keep me present just seems to bring up so much anxiety. Don’t want to make excuses and maybe I should make myself make a 15 minute effort at cleaning out something...

Glad to hear of your success. Not preachy at all... I am not quite sure what my issue is but my upset doesn’t come from sentimental items but rather a verbal disgust that I have accumulated so much which leads to not a good space.

I so like her books and the method. Unfortunately, I seem to have no follow through and get so incredibly negative when going through stuff. Trying to put in all into perspective.

It has always amazed me that if you are Charting a course and adjust the measurements by a small amount the destination is completely different. Life is kinda like that - going in one direction and then something small happens (or something huge happens) and we keep going but the path is so very...

A few days ago an opportunity presented. Sometimes in T , I will tell my t that i can’t do something or after the fact let her know that I chickened out. And my t is so nice to point out that these times are just missed opportunities. Anyway - a few nights ago it must have taken me a good half...

Not well.i was so unsettled and dreaming or nightmaring all night. Waking up exhausted. I had been doing better because dream or nightmare would be isolated in the night and then I would eventually sleep some - last night I kept believing it was real. Gonna be a tough week - working-preparing...

Welcome- This site has been a huge shock for me in a good way. For so long I lived with the secrets and the shame of my past. I was terrified to ever let people meet “me” and in reality my early trauma became what I expected I deserved- I had no idea that anything would be considered trauma . I...

Well he actually used to be a private cook and travel quite a bit cooking for families- so he has the skill but Doesn’t see it as his place. (My word not his). Upon reflection and reading all this I think I need to stop asking and let him know what I need - this will take some time as this seems...

Thank you for your replies - he does cool and quite well but just not for me or the family. He will cook something for himself late at night if he is feeling hungry- or he will make himself food for him to take for lunch sometimes (this is a huge change because I used to make him breakfast and...