Recent content by Nyoom

Ahhh, I see what you mean now, I'm sorry for misunderstanding your initial reply. And you bring up good points, even if the dream was based in a real event, that wouldn't always mean its intentions are how I assumed. I did feel uncomfortable and a sense of discomfort when thinking about it, but...

Thank you for all of this, I've read through it a couple times and completely agree. I have wondered if my anxiety and physical reactions to being touched around my privates could be in relation to this, since the COCSA I experienced was, to my memory, mostly oral and never involved touching...

Unfortunately, you'd be the exception here. Most people don't have memory from before the age of 3, and even then memories before the age of 6-7 tend to be patchy and unclear. In my case, I have memory issues anyway (though mostly short term), from ADHD and the other traumatic events that are...

Ah, I see what you mean now. Yeah, I think it could be something like that. It's definitely the most vivid and real feeling though. It's sorta on that borderline of "this feels really real but it also doesn't seem likely to be real". It's confusing, part of me is wondering if it even matters.

I definately don't think this is the case for me assuming I'm understanding what you mean. I don't desire... that sort of thing. Though, it could be argued that I desire a "legit" reason for my emotions because of how I tend to downplay my existing traumas. Thank you. Some of what you said...

Hello all, I wasn't really sure where to to with this one, but its a doozy, and lead to my first mental breakdown in a Wetherspoons bathroom... truly, I have become an adult. So, as stated in prior posts here, I experienced COCSA, and have experienced a plethora of issues as a result...

I can relate to a lot of this but also can't tell if its trauma or something else. My memory has always been trash, but it never seemed to get better, heck maybe even worse, as I aged. I think, in my case personally, its a bit of a mix of trauma and having ADHD and dyspraxia, but its hard to...

I kinda get what you mean. Not everyone will have the same reactions to potentially traumatic events as others. In this case, what happened did have an effect on me (triggered memories of past abuse, kinda set me back mentally for a while, for example) but doesn't exactly make the top 10 most...

Congrats! Something that made me smile today was my cat coming up to snuggle with me. I've been really ill the past few days, so her being here to be the adorable chaotic neutral demon cat she is has helped keep me entertained and comforted.

The idea of COCSA between simular aged children is complicated but it is generally agreed upon that it happens. I wrote in the thread COCSA in family about the framework outlined in Johnson and Doonan (2005) that outlines a criteria that prepubesant peer on peer abuse must meet to be considered...

This is incorrect, as COCSA, or peer on peer abuse, does not need a set age difference. However, when between two younger children of the same age or simular ages, specific things need to be involved. The behaviour must be: Adult sexual behaviour such as penetrative sex (oral, vaginal, or anal)...

Could you expand on what you mean by red flags? I am a pretty oblivious person when it comes to those. Deadass almost followed a man who "needed help"... apparently needed help from a young girl who didn't speak the same native language as him despite there being multiple adults and native...

This is more or less how I figured they meant it. Just doing anything to get out of the situation. Perhaps not even really acknowledging at the time how much he was upsetting me, since when drunk you don't really sit around and think "Hmm, me doing this might trigger her childhood trauma"...

To put things briefly, on the 1st of January a friend of mine (K) did something that I think dances on the line between sexual harassment and sexual assault. They've been my friend since we were in secondary, around 7-8 years now, and we've always been close. So close that I felt no issue...

Hello, I came here to vent a bit. Various things have happened since I last posted here, my mother getting drunk as all hell, having an argument with me about arianna grande of all people, and pushing me into a wall and almost started hitting me (something she doesn't normally do, for those...