Recent content by shandemonium

rule one for me is never mix family and money, because family can and will swindle us. It sounds like he is using your card to grow for profit. I have both grown and been medical patient for over 8 years, and I can tell you that a grower doling out a oz per month is ridiculous. Plants produce...

I know some folks in the BDSM scene, isn't there a "safety word"? So by "consenting" to be raped at a later and unknown date, it seems like he should have stopped when he noticed you were being actually traumatized. If he's not part of the kink community, he should have done some f*cking...

@rightkindofme I am honestly having a hard time seeing the grey-area here, but I admit that I have never been in a sexual relationship with a man because I am gay, so I have that bias. I mean, I've been assaulted by men, but never intimate. In my own lesbian relationship, I have lost all trust...

you do NOT owe anyone sex because it makes them feel "supported"... plain and simple. This was rape and please get away from this horrible man and get him out of your life ASAP. :cry: I don't know waht to say but I am sending my love and support your way.

while my mother was the one who actually beat the crap out of me, we moved in with my biological father when I was 13 and his temper was also explosive. I feared him more though... He never hit me, but would fly of into fits of rage and throw things around, break things, and threaten me too...

Only one to add (for now): Bjork: "All is Full of Love"

as a full blown lesbian here, can i tell you that we avoid women like you? It's really not about your personality or looks etc. Think about our perspective. I will attempt to answer you seriously without getting my own buttons pushed... Your best bet, (if you are serious), is to find another...

I can help you out.. PM me please

HI Louisa, Any chance you could just make an appearance at the end? I don't know all the aspects of your family, so forgive me for giving any bad suggestions. BUt if you do plan to go, you could always "have something to do before/after" that limits your time with them. There's always...

hi Harley and welcome to the forum. I am so sorry about what happened with your husband and your kitty too! Please do not give up on yourself and know that we are here for you. This forum is a wonderful place for support. You will find many people who understand. Hugs to you if you need them:hug:

breathe and take it day by day. I know that sounds cliche but it's the truth! Also, dogs are amazingly non-judgmental. I spend more time with my dog than people these days lol. And if the dog likes you, the lady will too! You can bribe a dog real easily with cheese or a hot dog, lol, I wish I...

Oh yes!

"the inner prosecuter".. I like that. I mean, I don't like it, but it's a clever and truthful term! Sorry about the weed thing, that was more my own soothing words for me as an example. Do what makes you feel good around the house.. a bath? some tea? eating all the nutella right out of the...

Hey @Glenn R. I can really relate to being paralyzed by this and staying in my room for the whole weekend. I barely go to the kitchen to eat, can't even go in my yard. Then the guilt and self-loathing kicks in. If I could offer any good advice it's this: start by forgiving yourself and saying...

I am so sorry this happened. I don't know what to say other than a punching bag in my living room was a very good investment for me. I go nuts on it.. no one gets hurts, nothing gets broken. Maybe even a few pics of these girls on the bag? If I could invite you over to punch my bag I would...