Recent content by sisu

Thank you and I agree. I am grateful for all of the wonderful things in my life. And you are right - I chose to be a good mother to my kids and I think I am doing a really good job. I am so proud of my amazing kids! I'm the sappy mom crying on the sidelines and beaming with pride when my...

Thank you!! Places like this have helped me a lot. I get great insight from people who "get it", and I get some validation when I am on the right track. I still have a long way to go, but I am confident I can get there. This is something that I had an awareness of beginning about 4 years...

Promicarus - I just saw your response. YES! I did have a father who was rejecting of me - and a mother who was emotionally detached from me. I do find myself seeking out or being drawn to men who don't treat me well. I am VERY aware of it now and am trying hard to change this. When a man is...

I am in your same boat regarding lack of closure and the difficulty in that situation. I am totally okay with not dating him anymore and I am moving on however I feel that I will always have that question in my mind of what really went wrong. I don't know so I can't fix it for my future...

Thank you everyone for all of your responses. I think at this time I will continue to move forward with my life. If I have any hope of ending this cycle I need to move on. Its sad but the reality is that this man is simply not capable of having a real loving relationship with anyone. He...

I want to text my ex-boyfriend so bad - its all I can think about right now. The thing is, if I text him I know he'll respond. And if he responds it will keep me engaged and I won't move on properly. I need to move on because I want to be happy and he said he can't be in a relationship with...

I also have this problem ~ when J broke up with me I was really given no reason, well I was given lots of rambling little reasons that made no sense. And I was not given any opportunity to fix whatever the issue was. On top of that I didn't even know he felt that way until it happened...

It has been 3 months for me since the painful surprise break up but only 1 week since I decided to quit talking to him. I should have quit talking to him when he decided he was done and I would be 3 months closer to healing. He kept engaging me in conversation and we would meet for lunch every...

I became so accomodating to him and his PTSD needs in our relationship that I lost myself. Now that we are broken up after 3 years I am having a hard time finding myself again.

Yeah, you are probably right. But I struggle with this philosophy too ~ it requires me to think the worst of everyone. I have a habit of looking for the good in people. I thought he really needed a friend and because he was getting additional help, I agreed. Then when I saw he was online...

I'm struggling again - but hopefully on the road to recovery. My ex boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. Most of that time we remained in contact and would see each other for lunch about 1 time per week. So he continued to text me, call me and want to meet for lunch it sort of seemed...

I think you should do whatever will make you feel better. :) Although I appreciate viewpoints from sufferers from time to time, I believe there are instances where they are a bit harsh. Sometimes you as the carer need to be selfish and think of yourself first. If it will make you sleep...

Awww, I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. What an awful day. But on a positive note, that issue is behind you now and you can move forward and never worry about it again. And once you have some distance from that awful day - you will have a crazy story to tell. :p I've done some...

You can find "you" again Mtnativecohome! Be kind to yourself and allow youself to cry and feel sad for what is lost. Then when you are done with that - get up off that couch and take charge of your life! You absolutely deserve a great life and you are in charge of making that happen. My...

You are in my head! THIS is why I still talk to J ~ this is why I keep flip flopping in my thinking ~ and this is my driving force to work hard on myself so I can make the best decision for me! Like you, my children always come first and because I have daughters I feel like I really need to...