Recent content by spookedlife

This kind of black/white, only this/or only that thinking...one of the most reliably common, as well as problematic, features in those with highly stressful/traumatic early life experiences, especially when that stress/trauma happens to have originated in the dynamics of the family of origin...

Absolutely. I think many of us do, especially when it comes to family members being complicit, or willfully ignorant, of our abuse...and/or responsible for it. I know exactly what you mean. I have fond memories of my mother, and gratitude towards her, for the things she's done for me, and on my...

I'm glad you've found a way to relieve yourself of guilt. I think, as long as you tried your best to make him aware of your reasons, in other words...that you just couldn't handle a relationship with this much stress right now, etc....and didn't imply that it was his fault, for "not measuring...

Bingo. Same here. Your question is like asking...why do we favor a finger, after slamming it in the door? If we use it for anything...the less pressure, the better. The more superficial the touch, the safer. Because we're in pain, that's why. And friends just keep things on a...

Welcome Gabrielle...I think almost every member of the forum would admit that they could have written your post, themselves...I know I could have. Here's hoping you'll find support, and relief, here....I have. Feel free to personal message me.

Good point. I would agree that the issue is far too complex to generalize regarding, certainly, and can and should only be addressed on a case by case basis, by a professional. However, postponing any addition until later stages of gestation would be much more likely to avoid the serious damage...

I take your meaning, but I think the larger point is that the child could be fundamentally and permanently compromised physiologically, during gestation, by the introduction of chemicals...that's something that lasts a lifetime

Good luck! And thank you for your service!

You know what? You're absolutely right. People here CAN be discouraging and even disparaging, out of all proportion. And thank god! Why?... At one point I had reached such an extreme of full and outright retreat from the world that I might as well have been curled up in the fetal position in...

Link Removed So glad you found my post helpful. I would have recommended exactly the selection of books you have listed. I think it would be a good idea to start with those, in order to avoid being overwhelmed, at first. Your mate is so fortunate to have someone such as yourself. Feel free to...

GregoryH I agree, that when those with a history of trauma detach from another, so to speak., it is often to run the tests you refer to. But speaking from personal experience, as well as similar experiences shared with me by others with the diagnosis...sometimes it's a legitimate need...to...

Some things to take into consideration 1) I don't know the age range in your classes, but youths often say things they don't even mean, often for effect. Depending upon to whom the comment was made, the student might a) only have been agreeing with one of the more disruptive students, in order...

i think you should tell your therapist...they're trained to distinguish between ideation and imminent threat....i know this from personal experience...as i've discussed the fact that i regularly toyed with the idea of suicide for some time. if you trust your therapist, you should trust that he...

I'm glad you're aware at least that it's important for you to 'find' your own identity again...as many who experience this...symptom, though I hesitate to call it that...do not even recognize it as unhealthy. This sounds very much like an experience common to those who have been diagnosed with...