Recent content by Ubergirl

I can't help but think you're remembering the friendship thru rose coloured glasses. Kids memories don't always clock all the emotional boundary crossing. Maybe it wasn't such a great friendship as much as it was attention and acceptance when you had none from anyone else. We tend to idolise kid...

I'm so sorry you still have to live with these people. I agree about the confrontation not being the best while you are living with them. Is there places where you live that provide safe accommodation for people stuck living with their abusers? I'm older than you but I was stuck living with...

Anytime those MFers call you dramatic or sensitive, you should say "You mean I'm being sensitive about the INCEST? the SEXUAL ABUSE you knew he was doing to me and did nothing to protect me from? Why did you allow my brother to molest me and commit incest mum? Was incest in your family too? Is...

I disagree with your T. I'm sure he/she is trying to help you but you have to let yourself be ANGRY otherwise it will eat away at you. Is it so bad that for maybe 6 months you are in blame mode? In my opinion, no. Because of your "parents" doing F ALL to protect you, and supporting that POS...

Maybe you could find and print out some info about how kids deal with abuse and highlight a paragraph or two about the confusion etc Tell her you aren't accusing her it's just that your brain is doing what it naturally does, protecting you from the horrors of what you went through, protecting...

I apologise, I keep getting borderline and bipolar mixed up as the same. I honestly had such a confusing time reaching out to psychiatry and psychology for help as both have different ideas about diagnosis and how to tackle problems. I shouldn’t put down the psych because he actually helped me...

I’ve had this happen 6 months ago. It was the strangest dream and I remembered it perfectly which never happens. It was like a art of me, whispering to me what happened. It was horrible but- this part of me has protected me for 40 years … I feel proud while I write this. So strange but there’s...

Good musings. I agree that BPD for me was frightening and sent me spiraling after one Psychiatrist determined it for me (I think he really helped medication wise but wasn’t the best for diagnonsense.) BPD or “manic depression” as it was called has been really looked down on, even though these...

This is hella interesting to me because I know c-ptsd and borderline personality is very similar. It makes me wonder if ptsd constantly in childhood, changes your growth/personality, as in it sends you off on a different branch than you’d usually be on because of the trauma and that makes it a...

Hey I just wanted to say that perhaps my reaction is because I identify with OP and know what it’s like to give in to people who you don’t want to have sex with because you’re vulnerable. Basically you don’t have a lot of options and these pieces of suit know that. What you said may be not what...

When my T asked me the same question I was like 🤯 "I'd hug her and cry with her and tell her, of COURSE it's not your fault" and T says, well why can't you apply that to yourself? Lol I know exactly what you mean with having all different ages of "trauma me's" with opinionated voices in our...

I agree with this that it was both sets of parents responsibility, there must of been signs they missed or ignored. But I also think it is acceptable that the older child is responsible. For example, you were abused and didn't go around using other kids for your own gratification...

*Biggest hugs* Everyone is right, you are not to blame at all. Your poor little body didn't know what was happening, what should've been a loving experience decades in your future, was a humiliating, confusing feeling that brings you horrible shame. That part of yourself that blames you and...

Thankyou, I can see now this is a coping method. Even the police called it a non violent crime but with the things they see everyday I guess it was. They did strongly suggest me to seek assault charges against him but I haven't as yet. I was pushing the triggers and realisations down from the...