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    Anxiety when trying to sleep

    I have a pretty good grip on my anxiety until I want to sleep. It happens often before a nap when I am just starting to relax after 5 or 10 min then it's a sudden tightening of my chest, etc. Sometimes at night it also happens, or I can wake in the middle of the night from a sound sleep. While...
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    What Is On Your Mind Right This Second?

    I need to eat breakfast but I'm tired of eating the same things all of the time. An omelette sounds good but also a lot of work. Blah.
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    How do I manage when I cannot see my T for awhile?

    When things become difficult, perhaps you could imagine what she would tell you in that situation. Self care and self compassion are huge tools to carry, so read a good book on strengthening those skills. Soothe yourself as she does. If she accepts it, maybe you could exchange a short, weekly...
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    Panic attack as i fall asleep

    I don't have full blown panic attacks but sometimes when I am in bed and ready to drift off, I get a panicky, anxious feeling that doesn't last too long where my heart rate amps and my chest tightens. I mark it up to my mind and body relaxing and quieting, distractions are gone, making room for...
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    Other Selective mutism

    Spent many school years as an SM. Took decades to discover it, and to find it is a serious disorder and I wasnt just a freak. Ive read conflicting info that it isnt a sign of abuse, but then had two Ts tell me it is. I suppose it could be a response to social anxiety brought on by abuse?
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    Spending money on therapy?

    Another suggestion : how can you get more $? Part time work? I recently made $$$$$ unloading stuff I dont use via Craigslist. Donate plasma. Whatever it takes. We only get one life - make it a good one.
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    Spending money on therapy?

    I went 5 years out of pocket at $140/session. Ive never missed the money. Ive always appreciated the growth. Healing is priceless and you are worth the investment.
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    New therapist rescheduled a lot. would you take it?

    We need consistency. This ain't it. It seems he cannot commit time to you. If it's new, I'd let him go assuming you have other options. Imagine how irritating this will be 6 months and 20 changes in, for example. Or tell him you cant take the unpredictability and see if he can change it of you...
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    I don't know what to do for the best - final sessions & transference

    I quit my T in June. I still think about her every day. It's like any other loss...you grieve, you long, you miss that person. One thing that helps me to keep things in perspective is the reminder that this is a relationship that was never meant to be indefinite. We have to eventually let go...
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    Write a happy story in 3 words

    Djembe class today!
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    Vacations/sickness/weather= constant cancellation

    My ex T would cancel once or twice per month when I saw her weekly. She let me know in advance but, damn, she had a ton of long weekends. I let it go on way too long without saying something and I wondered how she could run a biz that way! When I finally said something, her response was, "some...
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    Updating old therapist. have you done it?

    Well, I quit my T in June after 5 years and it was tough on me. She suggested that we stay in touch and send each other silly things on a whim, but now I know it was her reaction to my abrupt departure as she never has sent anything. I also think an email relationship is too difficult for me. I...
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    New therapist?

    I found with Psychology Today, many check box all areas and speciaities as tho they're casting a wider net to draw more clients. Recently was seeking a couples therapist and while most claim to do it, less than five promoted that exclusively. I feel better picking someone with a specific focus...
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    Friends after therapy... anyone?

    Yes on one account and we were best friends for a while, still are friends across the miles many years later. Offered to my most recent T after I quit as she suggested it would have been fun to meet under different circumstances and she initially offered to step away from the therapist role...
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