Recent content by Wendy

This person doesn't seem to be a healthy person to have in your life. If it were me, I would distance myself. Just my two cents, after being sucked into numerous unhealthy friendships over the course of my life, I now realize how much better it is to not have all the drama. It takes all my...

I'm right there with you. I have just a few friends left and I can't seem to reach out to them. Even if they call me, for some reason I just look at their names on caller ID and I can't bring myself to pick up the phone. I hate it and I don't understand why I'm like this now. I lost the...

Are you able to get a cat? I have two cats that I've had since they were kittens and they sleep with me, cuddle with me while I watch tv, etc. They help me so much with my dark moods and depression. Also, I use a portable fan when I got to sleep at night and it provides the white noise...

I feel that way all the time. Wouldn't it be great if all of us who feel alone and impossible to understand could meet up and support each other? *sigh* There are too many of us stuck feeling this way. :(

I can relate to all of the things on this thread. It both scares me and relieves me that I'm not alone. I think the world we live in is crazy-making--violence everywhere, hate, abuse of every kind imaginable, focus on trying get us to work to death to buy junk we don't need, pressure to be...

I was thoroughly baffled by my mother's insane behavior toward me. While I didn't think she was normal or that I deserved to be treated that way, I did think that everyone hated their parents until I was probably a grown adult and realized not every family was as disordered as mine is. It was...

And yes...I'm the person at work who cheers everyone up, is always in a good mood, etc. People would never guess how I really feel inside. I get home from work and I'm just exhausted from working so hard trying to be who I used to be naturally...only now it's hard work.

I totally agree with how you described depression. It is exactly the same for me. While there are definitely things in my life that are worth being sad about or grieving over, for the most part I think I have a decent life and I'm ok with it. But I also have the brain fog, apathy...

You will LOVE Toxic Parents. Guaranteed! I have bought it for friends before. I just remembered another book, "Adult Children of Alcoholic Parents" by Janet Woititz. My parents were not alcoholics but my grandfather was and this book totally nailed some of my mother's worst...

You're welcome! It occurred to me while looking at this thread again...this is probably a large part of the reason that my social circle has grown smaller and smaller over the years. I've really lost patience with other people's ignorance. Sad but true. :(

Sadly, you are not alone in this experience. I am 47 and been fighting the effects of a narcissist mother for my whole life, but only fully realized it in the past few years. Some books I would recommend for healing/understanding: Toxic Parents, by Susan Forward Hope and Healing from...

I'm sorry, I don't have any advice but you should know that you're not alone. I think in general there are a lot of people who think it's ok to tell other people what they SHOULD want and what they SHOULD be doing according to THEIR world view/life experiences/conditioning, etc. I've seen some...

I completely understand. I feel the same way and mostly just want to be left alone. I think a lot of the problem is it is just so tiring to try to present as "normal" to the rest of the world when things are nowhere near normal. I noticed when I skip something I used to do regularly, like...

I'm tired from the moment my alarm clock goes off in the morning. I can relate. Everything seems just totally overwhelming.

I just learned about this (spoon theory) a few months ago and I love it. It explains so well what we go through!