Recent content by WhiteHatGirl

Is this what you do on this site, analyze everyone? No thanks.

Why do I have triggers so easily? I've currently recently relocated back to my sibling's place. A place where I get harassed and emotionally abused and then in great anxiety I flee for anyplace else to get away from the games. I've done this cycle like literally 15 times before. With Fibro, and...

I'm a person who cannot handle condescention or put downs at all. I was humiliated by my alcoholic narcissitic father in public places and told I was "bad," "incapable," etc. What typically happens is I beg the condescending, veiled bullying person to stop responding to my threads. They DON'T...

Then why didn't you start with "I've hitched plenty of rides....etc" in your response? Your approach was condescending.

You are ignoring the veiled bullying approach that was more based in shaming me then in supporting me. I will always shut down when I am treated in such an unhealthy way, and maybe I can sense it better than others. I won't tolerate being ripped to shreads to be made fun of in a public forum...

What goes on inside me is, if others try to fix, I get angry. I get tired. I've thought my way through almost every kind of remote solutions to situations before I get on a list like this in desperation. But I want to hear more, "I've been there, and you'll get past this" then, restating my ICKY...

Reanalyzing what I say is going on, it's not welcome. It's just not an approach I can cope with when I put up threads. People saying the phrase "You are not listening" as a trigger is what I'm asking about. Blaming the other person when they whisper, or forget that they didn't tell you something...

Yes that was good old N dad and N x spouse!

Look I'm trying to figure out if my PTSD is making me paranoid and over react, but my family is passive agressive, then gets agressive and it CANNOT all be my PTSD or my AVPD, they can be mean when they want to. They get meaner and meaner until I leave.

There is this happy face I'm supposed to put on, so I can get along in public. But when my life has been a mess for a very long time, and I'm chronically depressed an anxiety ridden, it is so difficult to even look cool, or collected let along "happy." I cannot do customer service work anymore...

I did this too. I got a Psych degree, and decided I wanted to work with kids. And when I got to working with them, I saw a very sick social system, much like my family of origin. I realized one day I was trying to save myself! Then I quit beating up on myself for finding other types of work...

I completely identify. I am from a very confusing alcoholic family with a lot of shame based thinking. My identity was shown to be of no value to my family over and over and I've found a way to have it repeat into my adult life with part of the family as an adult as well. I just want to be...

Oh, and I'm pretty sure his behavior may be defined as borderline personality disorder. You can look it up, maybe there are pages on how to deal with people with this disorder.

Why can't you have your attorney be in the middle, so all contact has to go through the attorney? If you don't have kids, I'd do that and also change my number so he doesn't get it.

I bet most people who are in this forum would identify. The joke is that there are elephants in the middle of the room people cannot talk about. Well my family is like that. I can only talk about the weather with certain people. I also think I react badly to my in law who has anxiety issues...