Conserving water

So. We are moving rent utility free. We checked it out today. Despite my fear it is OK. We have to get a container to dispose of our black water. We own rv. So husband is showing me this on Amazon. Then mentions conserving water . I don't wash the dishes the way he would..yes his latest concern is the wildfires and water issues here in the SW. We live in NM. Yes I got upset. Asked him over over how do I conserve more water. The dishes get dirty.i do dilute our dish soap. I like a clean nest tidy home..yes I over reacted but it is one stress after another. I can move make those changes. I will be with a couple older than us who I believe I can have conversations about life with empathy kindness..my conversation with my husband just prior to the one about conserving water was our trip to AZ to get our newer used vehicle on March 17 eating out life again
.plus the world is one shit storm - sorry- after another. I told my husband he needs to make the decisions about this move- black water tank internet changes etc himself. I am at or over my limit
Help here please. I am setting limits but this keeps occuring..By the way political depression is a real thing. People are seeing therapists for it. My husband thinks I am the problem throws in my face I'm insane. I have ptsd. Don't need doom after doom. Doomsrolling by him then he pronounces the next disaster.

Ugh that sounds tough. Setting limits is the first part. Next is the consequences. Not easy—my heart goes out to you

Thank you. I am not sure now he intended for it to come out they way it did or for me to react with fear this way. He is a good man he has been protective and loving. Really. The consequences are this. I need much more quiet time to deal with my fear. Much less discussion of current events. He goes to bed before me. I sit in the evening quietly accepting my fear. I sit outside in our lawn chairs as the evening light increases. For starters

That sounds pretty rough. I dont know how you can conceive water when it sounds like your not using it much. If you are in RV, you are likely not doing laundry or watering plants and such. I run a dishwasher almost daily and laundry too. I just dont see how its possible, but he likely has good intent and is maybe just concerned about new circumstance. I do know people who have grown up with well water and it has gone dry and they have had to haul water for months until it returns. I know they tend to conserve also. It would be upsetting to me to be told that though

It sounds like this conversation, on top of all the other conversations, has meant you have had your limit.

The thing about boundaries is that othat they are for us to enforce, not for other people to comply with. That's what I learnt on here. I was expecting someone else to do something rather than me.
It's hard, because it takes energy when energy is already depleted.
But I think someone suggested walking away when the conversations start.

I:m sorry he isn't able to hear you and respond the way you need.
It sounds like the stress cup thing (there is an article on here about it, which is really helpful). Maybe showing him that article might help him understand where you are at?

Yes the stress cup had been helpful for me. Other do not respect things like this. No empathy or compassion for medical issues. Not just ptsd. Other issues too. No filters judging others saying you are slow stupid etc. I think my husband means well but he does not respect this either. He feels he is being attacked or dissected if people have limits boundaries etc. I will keep working on me.