Other Being targeted?

This occurred to my husband and I. We live in a small rural community. He volunteers at one of the food banks here. The woman in charge of it offered for us to live rent free on her property. We own an RV. We are a renting a space now which includes rent utilities. It is a small park and the owner sometimes has my husband do work on.the property and reduces rent. We visited the woman's property. She is elderly her husband is elderly has has a CVA. They have no air conditioning . We all live in NM. Our RV has AC..She did not tell her adult children she made this offer to us. They have 2 dogs. One almost bit me wears an E collar and the woman said she can't afford to get the dog spayed. She offered to let us use her washer and dryer. There are more red flags but I won't list them. Any way we are not taking up the offer. Since I was educated in narcissism control manipulation etc during my domestic violence treatment I am looking hard at me. As a former codependent anyone have an opinion in these dark times if we were being targeted? I am well aware of the hero martyr victim interplay. We have 2 dogs who are my emotional support animals. We all have suruational vulnerabilities but my husband and I have retirement income. If we would have done this I think the consequences could have been negative. Any thoughts appreciated.

From what you have shared, it doesn't sound like you are being targeted. But you know how you feel, and you know the bigger picture.

You have declined the offer. So the situation is resolved. You can put in boundaries.

Thank you. I am still uneasy. Three people here I tried to be friends with . Red flags. I am still looking at me. Reviewing situational vulnerabilities.

This situation is over. But it resulted in this. We live in a very rural conservative community. I have had no success making friends here. I am married so I was looking for a female. I do not want to talk to anyone here except usual pleasantries . And I will not put myself in a situation where more interaction could occur. It is politically conservative here. Enough is enough..

Hi.

I don't like to offer opinions much anymore. Especially when details are scarce.
It sounds like the move may have offered some complications which you were better off avoiding. I think time will reveal if there might have been issues, and by staying where you're warm and secure you have time on your side.
It brings to mind the story of the nonconforming sparrow. I'd quote it here but I think copyright issues could get me in trouble. It's a short little anecdote and if you google "the nonconforming sparrow", I think you might smile if you haven't seen it before. It has often brought a wry smile to my face when I think about how many times it has appeared in my life.
As for a friends' quest.... I wish you good tidings. It is hard to find people in this world today who are self aware, quality individuals. And then I have my own trust and emotional concerns that I want to neither ignore nor over evaluate. I'm in a similar mode and need to explore some threads and topics along that line. It's not easy but I don't want to give up.
Enjoy the sparrow.

I just read the non confirming sparrow. I do think the right choice was made. They offered it to my husband. I am to influenced sometimes by him. What he believes his opinions etc. The woman who offered this to him seems rather desperate. Her and her husband seem to be possibly worse off financially. We own an rv and she originally said we could plug into their electricity with an extension cord. No. There is no free lunch. The costs of their offer would have been passed to them. They don't have AC. I told my husband if she contacts me again I have no obligation to respond nor will I. He needs to respond to them.