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I am sorry I made the post. It seems to have caused more issues with you. I have nothing that can help

Can you research spiritual bypassing to see if you can get some help or info from this? Trauma recovery involves managing our reactions and responses and understanding that some people and things are just toxic unhealthy so we work on deciding it that remains in our lives.

Not sure if thus helps but the term character defects is derogatory to me. In my trauma recovery I had to come to grips with the transmission of transgenerational trauma in my family of origion and why they covered up abuse. So if you have trauma and can learn to refrain things establish...

Today this am I called my father from my phone. I wanted to. I watched observed any codependent thinking before I decided to aka you have too you are shamefully etc. I wanted to call him. He said he is ok. His home health provider was coming at 100pm to drive him to PT. Conversation 5 minutes. I...

I feel fear similar to you out in public. Mine seems to connected to the moral compass breakdown in our society. I do believe this is real. The breakdown that concerns me is the apathy poverty drug use rising prices etc. How that affects people and maybe in a store something someone will do or...

My father and brother narcissistic a Holes of the poltical party of disordered minds.

Please if my posts about my father help anyone avoid the consequences of the transmission of transgenerational trauma then that is good. To do so is incredibly difficult and in my case it took me getting life threatening sick in a coma on a vent cardiopulmonary arrest to get help and learn about...

Thank you. I was educated in these dynamics in domestic violence treatment and family systems theory in psychotherapy. I reviewed scapegoat golden child and I think my brother may be quite bitter as the consequences of his role are playing out. He has my father one of his daughters is not...

Narcissism .No more f...K to give.

My brother and I shared texts last regarding my father. I asked him to call me so I could discuss me not calling my dad to check on him. He drove. He is not safe to drive. Home health was coming to instruct him in insta card use. He cancelled drive to grocery store instead. I saw my error'...

Radical acceptance. I may not like it support etc but I have to accept. Move forward. Create your future. I am so sorry

Hello and welcome. Good support here.

I agree. Perhaps a digital detox for all of us is needed

Thank you.

Thank you. I am not a hermit but there is a lot of moral decay in the US. People with no boundaries. I did not understand this living situation in the UK. I am not sure I could handle a shared bathroom. I don't think I am brave but thank you. My codependency traits came out again due to stress...

Tina Turner we don't need another hero

Well not sure if this helps. A former member of our rv park was assaulted by another person living here. After I said to my husband we need to tell the park owner the victim called my husband saying she would burn the rv park down if the man who assaulted her was arrested. The landlord was told...

I want no parental gifts.

Thank you. I will contact him and try to discuss this. I appreciate your insight very much. Not sure how.i live 1900 miles from the state they both live in. I will not return. I want parental gifts etc. Just want to let go. That is an ongoing process

My other repeated error is seeing red flags of various traits of unsafe people not honoring my instincts in this case but waiting for facts. Thrn boom the person really is toxic manipulative controlling. I try to work with my fight flight fear response but our society is so toxic so greedy...

I am also going back on my boundaries not just with my dad but other people . I have hurt threatened treated disrespectfully but then guilt and shame comes up. This is not valid. It is as if I was 100% at fault. Never true.

Thank you. I have gone no contact with him and mother before. I got an ex parte order against him in 2018. Two actually successfully. He will not change. So I am The mistake I made again was thinking this type of behavior would not occur again. He is at the end of his life. Alone. Live to...

And perhaps he is so miserable he wants to pass away. I will not spend time with him on phone angry. But this situation is unacceptable.

He is 89. He has several comorbities including memory issues falls etc. Released from hospital about 2 weeks ago. He does not live in my state. Case worker and doctor said he needs 24/7 supervision. My brother lives near him. My brother is the golden child. My father has some narcissistic...

I could say this about this statement. I had trauma recovery therapy domestic violence treatment help understanding family systems theory . I had help with spiritual trauma recovery. These concepts help me grasp with reality. I will never see things or people the way I did before 2014..I got to...