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My neighbour is a Christian therapist and probably believes very much in what she has to offer-but I’d never see her, period. Mostly because I view her beliefs just in neighborly chats to be a bit loopy. I have no doubt that if I saw her for help and then saw her in the yard that would blur the...

You could try one more time with a two to three sentence question. Hi, just wondering if you could reply regarding one last appointment to wrap things up and say goodbye rather than it seeming as though we are doing this through email. I hope you are well. Look forward to your response...

Yes for the most part. However the key to this is the snowflake . When snowflakes fall none are the same. Systems and reasons behind systems and how they play out in the lives of people who are D.I.D. Is pretty much snowflakes. The analogy is meant to spark thought aside from specifics. Some...

The very first wearable device I owned, pre-pandemic was called an aspire stone. Clipped at the waist and vibrated when becoming anxious. During the pandemic they switched to offering their support more towards medical devices and so having lost the support, when it stopped working I had to...

Having been there and going through a divorce and living outside of an unhelpful marriage union, I’ve come to realize that all those thoughts were from needing to leave the marriage and the life it was as opposed to leaving life altogether. That shift took time. Parts that desire freedom from...

Long and the short of it is that some who have DID actually witnessed death, hostile environments and horrific things rather than being the perpetrators of such heinous acts. It’s always been a backwards portrayal leading us to want to stay hidden to society rather than admit we function as a...

My daughter has autism and she was and is very much like this. She ended up taking those inside her head characters and writing a book on her computer, huge fixation. All day every day. What got her interacting outside her world was joining a boxing gym. Has a variety of shoot offs of the...

My psychologist calls it a mental-injury-I’ve always appreciated that mindset as opposed to illness. Sure the PTSD is in the DSM but the injury itself came from complex abuse.

Everything has gone silent in my head, like a huge shut down all of a sudden. As to next steps, I’ll know more when I see my gp tomorrow as I’ll be asking her what note she logged for the phone call and for a copy of it. Just means I don’t trust her either at the moment so getting a copy of...

I’ve answered a few others so if you read that it will update. I see my doctor Thursday to see if I have to take the only option available in our city. Mine has done the same, slow to return emails, not as connected, now that I know I can look back a bit clearer and see why I was wondering about...

Mine was really great for many years slow decline but not too noticeable. Since friday things have changed so much that I’ve come to feel I do not trust him and may make the May 30th the last appointment instead of staying until October. The reason is, he told me this on Friday, said at some...

No I paid for 4 years-when he went pro-bono it shifted to one session every 4 weeks.

Went to my appointment yesterday with my psychologist whom I’ve been seeing for 12 or more years. He said he is going to semi-retire in October, leaving us just 5 more appointments. Initially I saw him and was able to pay because of a Criminal Injuries Award, but when it ran out he continued...

Look for agencies that deal with abuse. They often have great councillors there that help you out and know what you are going through. Could be anything like here it would be the sexual assault centre or the victims services. They are starting points if you can find such a place in your area...

We don’t celebrate it because it is tragic. We have to learn as we go through therapy that what was done to us was wrong and we end up with a lot of recovery work to do through no fault of our own. 6 months in you would struggle to understand the kindness in his acknowledging your injury is now...

Let them know they are very much valued. They may have lost that message since healing and growth have taken place without their support. Send that message inside in whatever form or invitation you feel is best for them to hear. Let them know of their value but at the same time dropping...

Grief, sorrow from loss

In the western world, we separate from family in order to heal. I have no idea if you could do so. There are many great online videos that help with trauma. But I do know that as long as you are in the trauma the healing is slow and sometimes doesn’t move forward at all. That doesn’t sound great...

It helps in the sense that I can read the room, the atmosphere, the mood or motive of people with astounding acuracies. That type of hyper vigilant radar helps more than it hinders if I act accordingly. For me it is more than a gut feeling.

I’m 60 and hear you loud and clear, especially on the energy being used to filter out what I don’t want to think about or feel. Letting it go is a bit of a challenge though. You have to face it and call it what it was in order to truly let it go. It isn’t simply a shoulder shrug. It can be...

Track it, know when it could be about to start. Have a kit handy. We used to make them with pre-teen girls when we were introducing the topic of changing bodies. The kit was more than just body supplies as it included snacks favoured, anxiety reducers, enjoyable activities for bad moods and pain...

Draw, or collage. One day I was thumbing through one of those adult coloring books and my mind felt a connection to the drawings as it looked a lot like my inner world. So I cut, shaped formed a different picture from different pictures in this book and started coloring it. My self talk helped...

I do it all the time. I live with two others who are habitual headphone users. One to watch tv, the other always plugged in to something they are listening to. It makes it so my internal dialogue is always active. sometimes I hear it as a coach, or I call it my coach. Basically advising me to...

I understand it. Mine used to tell us and we have no clear idea why he does not tell us anymore. Now it is a missed appointment but since we only go every 4 weeks it becomes 8 weeks. Most parts feel abandoned and unsure that he will come back. It is a high stress time for sure. We have two weeks...

It’s okay to have your feelings and hopes and wishes. The problem on both sides is neither really knows what is going on with one another until a session can be had. She may very well be at home and asleep or resting and not responding as if she is in office. Mostly because she is looking out...