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I had an endoscopy a few months ago, have issues with anyone getting anywhere near my throat, and with partial sedation. One of the methods I used to set myself in the right frame of mind was that I was giving myself an opportunity to address my anxiety and heal from it. Not confronting it only...

Fully on point @grief and @Friday The legalities en-situ where a person is are very much involved in a determination of what, why, who in relation to act, means, purpose. Those are all very well connected, and depending where the offence occurred it may have elements that include or exclude...

Welcome. These feelings are heavy to carry alone, glad you’re able to find the forum. Lots of great people here and plenty of reading to find your way. You are most definitely not alone and sorry to hear it’s tough right now.

Yes…..that’s it. Holding the breath, but you may not actually realize the holding part. At least, that’s how it seems for me. The breath feels stuck, it is…cuz not enough is coming in. With concentrated out breaths the whole system naturally starts to calm and breathing gets a bit easier. If...

I’ve noticed this too. As though the air gets stuck part way when taking a deep breath, like @rubbercoraxxx, the air doesn’t get to the bottom. Then I just want oxygen so I try harder to take a deep breath and it just doesn’t work. I’m not necessarily aware of a specific trigger each time it...

Yep....happens to me as well. Often I can manage it with pauses when it's words, and my brain might be able to replace a single word with a description of what I'm trying to explain when it's not completely fried or zapped by a trigger. It was extremely frustrating last week when I was working...

Hey there, just wanted to chime in here and say I'm with you on how you're feeling. Also grateful for a therapist who sounds similar to yours in not pushing, careful not to risk retraumatization. I also took the plunge last week and put words to what I thought would remain unspeakable. Even...

Thanks for sharing your own experiences here, and yes, what you wrote is quite helpful since what you describe regarding your spouse has similar traits to my situation. It's something incredibly comforting to read about how you started to take notice when she was triggered and would back off...

This has been happening more frequently in my relationship with my significant other. We’ve been together for 6 years and the only change is that I’ve been working thru past sex related events that were violent. I avoid sex by default but have been working diligently on that and have made...

Absolutely what @Friday says. She’s gold. Dint give up please, there are some resources who deal with your experience and have the skills to have a conversation with you. Depends what kind of person you’re looking for to assist in that journey.... One I know of: Katherine Porterfield, Ph.D. |...

Dad has it. Went missing for 28hrs this past week. Found him and he’s getting care....but yes, it’s tough. I get it. Listening and sorry you’re having a hard time of it currently

Yes, I’d say I need to take a step back from it to see it. I’m basically standing face forward into a large grey shape that seems to have legs and a tail but I’m so focused on WTF is this that I can’t truly see it. If I took a couple paces and walked around to the other side, I’d realize it’s...

Chipping away a bit more....it’s starting to pull away edges of that black and white thinking I’m having with all power being only abuse. But it’s much more complex than that as you’ve been successful in pointing out to me. That’s caused me to consider where my own misconceptions are coming...

That should make sense but doesn’t for me. The first list I see as the words without abuse because everything they are is abuse. “If it’s inherently abusive” Like rape, cruelty, torture, murder.... Ok so power is in the second group because it’s not inherently abusive? Ah jeez.... I want it...

The topic of power is still very confusing to me, but I suppose it will take the time it needs to unpack and conceptualize itself for me. It’s extremely helpful for me to read how others view it, and the difficulties you have as well. I like what was said about agency and establishing...

Can’t say I’ve figured out the best way to deal with the cycling, but it happens to me as well. I also have fragments and some pieces toss me back to a childlike state. What I’ve learned about this in my situation is that it happens when I’m working on processing one particular memory and my...

Been thinking about this quite a bit cuz I'd like to sort it out in my head. I agree with many of the comments and that power can adapt depending on the situation. It can also be used as a catch all to describe certain circumstances quickly - like: the ______ political party is in power. They...

We track the negative, it’s a survival instinct. Your brain is trying to help, but doesn’t always get it right based on present circumstances. Brain breaking out of depression for a split second isn’t a bad thing, it’s a start to creating more space. Giving it acknowledgment is the first step...

I'm able to understand these concepts as they apply to others, but it recently came to light that I'm a bit confused when I throw myself into the mix. This was discovered in looking at my own history - which I don't think is relevant to the discussion at this point. I'm mostly curious how...

Let us know how things go if it helps. We can all learn from each other! You’re not alone and I’m glad you found this place.

I will have to post more when I have some additional time, but....I can relate to your situation and perhaps offer some of my own insight from my experience as a sufferer (also LE profession). There’s a really good thread on this site for supporters created by @Freida its called “what are they...

Hey, you’re not alone with this. It’s easy to think it’s just you though. So, thanks for taking the time to put it down here because it gives a chance to echo how difficult our past can be when it smacks into the present. Although my experience in my own relationship is similar, it’s typically...

Thanks for sharing, thanks for your post @fangirl570 I can understand what you’re speaking of very well. @ruborcoraxxx what you wrote definitely caused me to think more, based on my own background/profession. I very much value the interpretation of those who are exposed to use of force and will...

Thanks very much for that @joeylittle And all of what you wrote was necessary for me to wrap my brain around it. Now, where do I get these psychedelics? 😁

I recently listened to a David Burns podcast regarding sexual fantasies where he discussed a technique called cognitive flooding to address the intrusive thoughts. Lately, I’ve been having some issues with disturbing sexual fantasies about things from my past. I am trying to sort out if trauma...