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@Ronin that makes sense to me and on reflection I’d say I do similar. There are very few, 1 buddy with work related injuries, and Trauma T that get reasons.....everyone else gets excuses. Cuz I automatically expect them to judge me. So if I’m already judging my own explanations for why ‘I’m...

Curious, and sorry I don’t know much about your history....did you maintain those previous standards because you felt you had to for others? Is there something tangible you can identify as to when/why you were able to drop that standard? Thanks....lots of thinking.

This thread is intended for all who have a tricky time of explaining their inabilities to others from one day to the next. Perhaps we can knock down some distorted thinking together! I also hope to gain perspective here, cuz my view is such that anything I can do one day and not another is a...

Who leaves an innocent pup alone in a hotel room for hours every night 8pm - 0130 ish....barking non stop. First night, called reception to let them know cuz my experience...owner is dead and doggo is alerting. Second night, same. Third night. Nope. My werewolf wrote a note and left it in...

Also in the ‘not a fan of masks’ camp here. Similar reasons to you, and also the recent experience of being fairly ok to put one on in certain circumstances but be able to step away and take it off if social distance is available. A mandatory order with fines? I absolutely understand your...

Small study - 3 people lol Will hold my cynicism. I guess even if a few hours relief from symptoms was the result....I’d take it. Especially lately.

Absolutely understand and identify with the feelings about hiding PTSD (even the length of time you've hidden). Deserving of a longer response - which I can't muster....and not knowing when I will.....writing what I can now. With new job in child protection - things to consider: - Your own...

Absolutely @Teasel happy to help wherever I can

I don’t know the answer....maybe that’s it, there isn’t one. I know talking is something many say will drive healing. But so often the healing is to drive myself out of this life on foot, 2 or 4 wheels, boat, plane...whatever! Happens loads, and been up the creek still paddling when I...

Can’t sleep with them on but I use noise canceling headphones in the eve sometimes. I’m not able to use earplugs but use an app called naturespace for natural white noise while I sleep. I’ll still wake for unusual noises in my proximity, but external noises are flushed out more. If I do wake...

Overload mixed with hyper vigilance for me feels like everything is amplified. I can hear ants fart and trees fall in the forest a hundred miles away. Exhausting. When I notice this is happening it’s too late to use most of my grounding skills, so as many others have said....it’s focusing on...

I also fall down the same rabbit hole of not deserving and being punished for needs/asks. Still learning bit by bit, but something that may be helpful is reframing the self-talk that you don’t deserve good things or people you like in your life. What about your friend? There is something about...

Completely relate - and most of the time when I'm losing the thread in session I don't mention it (focusing so hard to keep T from sounding like the teacher on Charlie Brown). It may take time to build the relationship (don't know how long you've seen your T) but if you can, perhaps saying...

I agree with you and I do the same thing. Not too long ago my T said he's scaling back but will still see his 'Vets', he took on other responsibilities and priorities that are way bigger than just a few clients.....so, I'm constantly planning and prepared for when he says 'that's it, no more'...

@whiteraven have you mentioned how this sits with you to your T? Specifically this: You get along with him and have built a solid rapport I gather, cuz otherwise you wouldn't continue.... If he's worth his weight as a professional, he's gonna understand that a substantial proportion of his...

I'll try but it's a fairly new concept for me that I'm exploring and finding that it can be useful if my self-awareness is such that I can identify when my behaviour and/or thoughts are in response to something from my past. The self-awareness part is the biggest component to spend time on when...

Away for work - where I live during my 'stint' comes with a seagull. His name is Karl. I've never been a fan of gulls, but this dude? yeah, he's proven to be alright over the past 2 months I've known him during the pandemic. Today is my last day on shift and he left me a gift cuz I gave him...

I’m glad that you were able to communicate a bit with each other and that it was helpful! I have a tendency to hand out cookies ? when things go well ☺ As for the permanency or not of feelings/things/thoughts etc....I really struggle with that when I’m not doing well. Feels like you’ll be...

@12birds I'm sorry it's tough right now and there's a bunch of what you wrote that I can completely relate to right now. Part of how I'm managing it is to remind myself that it's not permanent. Not always helpful, but sometimes gives me a second of space to take a deep breath and a step...

I’m attempting to increase my understanding of the victim blaming concept....so please bare with me cuz my neurons aren’t fully functional lately. With what you said in mind @Friday - is it then fair to say that women who deny male victimhood are assigning a reason to the thing they’re afraid...

First off, apologies that my comms skills are somewhat lacking at current. But @somerandomguy your posts and candidness on many topics has been hugely helpful to me. This is important to you (and appreciate also difficult), you’re important to me. So I write. A most valuable lesson in my...

Yeah...the un-merry go-round. I know it well! In my experience, it doesn't go away but it gets a bit easier to track it when you know how it manifests for you. Everyone is different of course. So for me, listening to how I'm judging and blaming/shaming myself (I only ever do this to myself)...

The crying is such a good thing, especially if you’re able to start to do that for you. But it’s not comfortable and you’ll challenge it because of that. Sounds like dissociation was something you used to survive in the past....so makes sense what you’re saying. I use dissociation too and have...

I have a new set of coworkers this week as my job is in a different location. They are often away from the office dispatched on files or otherwise on aerial patrols. 'Kevin', as I've come to refer to him, has just returned and is using his best authoritative knock on the window to get my...

I’m on the same train @whiteraven. Had a lovely several weeks of numb and dropped every healing routine/support I’ve gathered over the last few years. Now not seeing a point to working on things. My brain seems to have chosen right now to deconstruct a difficult memory, one that I don’t know...