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Oh! Funny story... So I went on Tinder. And there was a profile there with just a picture of this cat. And I'm a dog person. And I NEVER swipe right if they haven't got a photo because they are either ugly or married! But as I'm about to swipe left I see his profile says "Been out of the...

The pup and I are doing great. I am seeing someone (who is also Army!) and he's lovely and sweet and kind and nothing like my ex. I bumped into the ex in the grocery store yesterday. Initially I was frightened and avoided him but then I got annoyed and even though I was still frightened I...

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@Friday - you're the best! You really really are! Hugs to all of you! I'm in a much better place now. Have been tentatively dating - nothing serious - but you know what? There are guys out there who would never EVER speak to me like he did - let alone treat me how he did. I'll get...

Blurgh! After two months of no contact I had to see him to get him to sign paperwork to sell the house. Ugly cried like a small child afterwards. He's learned absolutely nothing - he's repeating the pattern. He has a new girlfriend in a place some distance from here. He's neglecting...

Things are going reasonably well. I’m SO enjoying just doing what I want when I want instead of what I’m told when I’m told! He is being a bit of a dick about the property settlement. He seems to think that he should keep everything and that I should go with basically a few personal...

@dulcia - I feel like taking someone with me will rile him up. At the moment he is cold but polite - like you treat your least favourite Auntie. He just wants to get rid of me ASAP so he can move on with the next woman. (Because that’s a hell of a lot easier than working on his own issues!)

My 3 weeks at the beach have wizzed by and tomorrow I start the 3 day journey home. On Sat I will return to what used to be our home to collect the rest of my belongings. Makes me feel sick to my stomach thinking about it.

So anyhoo... He’s still being an arse but I realised that if he treated me like I was nothing when we were together of course he’s going to treat me like I’m nothing now that we’re apart. Somehow that made it easier to deal with. I have a couple more days at the beach and then back to the...

Feeling very down tonight. Feeling like I’ll never find someone who loves me. Feeling like that ship has well and truly sailed... maybe he’s right maybe I was the problem all along. Just can’t believe he’s ready to move on and start all over. I can’t imagine dating ever again!

:roflmao::roflmao::roflmao: I used to call him His Majesty behind his back!

Yup. Whenever I was upset My (ex ) sufferer would say “why are you crying now?“ Or “what have I done wrong now?“. If I was able to articulate some detail (i.e. you called me a f*ck wit, or belittled me in front of people or made me wait until 1 o’clock in the morning to go to bed) He would reply...

I know what I’m legally entitled to. I also know what I think is fair. He’s playing nice because we both know I can take way more than I’m asking for. But I’m asking for what I think is fair.

I left on 24 June so yes, very recent. I also feel like my ex has chosen to crash and burn our relationship and blame me for it rather than deal with his issues. I know his issues are huge but I literally made him my first priority and sacrificed everything else for him so it stings like hell...

Come sit by me. Mine was five years and I endured emotional, verbal, financial and physical abuse. I excused far too much of that because of his combat PTSD. He has already moved on – back online dating two weeks after I left. So I guess I have no option but to move on. I am making a lot of...

Don’t make the mistake I did and excuse poor behaviour has been caused by PTSD. Are the children hers or yours together? If the latter don’t fall yourself into thinking it’s better for them to have a “intact family”.

At least he’s making it easy for me! No more going back to him. Lol Just feel used and abused and exhausted. Lucky enough to be spending 3 weeks at the beach recovering.

@blackemerald1 - I know what you’re saying - emotional distance from the situation is the biggest asset a solicitor brings to the table but I don’t think he will be difficult. He knows that the court would give me more than I personally think is fair and therefore he is willing to give me the...

And he IS back online dating! FFS! I only left 2 weeks ago! I’ve emailed him and told him he needs to pay me out for my share of the property or we’ll sell it. Why should he sit there in property I bloody well own half of with his new GF???

@dulcia - there are logistics at the moment but I also am not feeling like he could reel me back in. Having discovered that he was also texting another ex I’m truly over him. Whereas before I saw him as a kind of damaged but heroic man now I see him as a dishonest disloyal f*ckboy like all the...

Please listen to @Sweetpea76 - if you’re being blamed for not stopping someone else hugging you things are not good.

Well yeah! He’s used to managing an entire company of soldiers and now he just has me and a couple dogs - oh wait - had me!

Three forbidden things in one photo! A ring, had manicure (not allowed to spend money on myself) and blue nails (not traditional)!

@Sweetpea76 - he still texts and calls but I think he is surprised at the response he gets. I tell him what I really think now. If he doesn’t like it - and he usually doesn’t - he ends the interaction pretty quickly! He’s not trying to get me to go back to him. I think he knows that ship has...

I have two years in which to pursue him for a property settlement if I choose to. He knows I can and I think not doing so at the moment will be the most effective way of ensuring his good behaviour. I’m actually a lawyer myself so it wouldn’t cost me anything to chase him! Having said that, I...