Relationship I’ve left him and he doesn’t care

[scout86]

If you ever needed proof that you made the right move, he handed it to you on a silver platter, huh?

 

[LuckiLee]

He might be sexy but everything I've learned about him is ugly. This new girl is screwed and I hope she figures it out soon. Actually... I can see the stress he's dealing with with you and the house filling his stress cup and him spilling it all over her. Not your monkeys. Not your circus anymore. Hope the house sells quick so you can heal and find a new sexy man. Inside and out. Btw, how's puppy/horse? Bet he's getting big! Take care! XO

 

[Abstract]

Just one more confirmation that he is as vile as we all think he is. So glad for you that you are out. Sadly you can't fight others battles for them. Charm and physical attractiveness are as empty as anything possible with no real depth or personality. They can be a superficial slight of hand more than anything else.

 

[Friday]

...and oh I know you know this, which means it bears repeating...

You had great times together. Good solid times. Love, laughter, intensity, promise, partnership, and some damn fine good times.

It’s okay to miss those. They were real. They happened.

They also made breaking up necessary. Because you deserve someone you have all of that -and more- with, without HIS flip side of that particular coin. Someone you can match wits with, and argue, and debate... without it ever crossing the line into verbal abuse. Someone you can fight with, and know in your bones will never try and hurt you, much less hurt you on accident and not give a damn. Someone who challenges you, without exhausting you. Someone whose strength is added to yours, not set against yours. Someone you giggle in bed with after , and share funny stories of “fights” later with... not someone you cry on your own, and try and not bring up or remember things later.

I’m physical as hell. My oldest friend is exactly like me in reverse. My Achilles heel is physical abuse. Because I have a super high tolerance -and need- for the physical. Her Achilles heel is verbal abuse. Because she has an incrediably high tolerance -and need- for the verbal. Out of all the men we’ve collectively been with? I’ve dated 2 physically abusive, and she’s dated 1 verbally abusive. The rest? Never crossed that line. You can have that mental or physical Shazaam! without it ever crossing the line. Where it’s fun, not heartbreaking.

When someone crosses the line from fun INTO heartbreak? It’s so damn hard. Because, f*ck me, the fun was there. Was sooooo there. And it’s not allowed to be ruined, by abuse. S’where he took it. S’where he chose to take it. That’s his mistake. And your right choice in leaving.

So of COURSE you are going to grieve that, and miss that, and be angry at, and sad at, and? You did right.

 

[Sighs]

@Friday - you're the best! You really really are!

Hugs to all of you!

I'm in a much better place now. Have been tentatively dating - nothing serious - but you know what? There are guys out there who would never EVER speak to me like he did - let alone treat me how he did. I'll get through this. For sure.

 

[Freida]

YEAH!!!! Happy dance for you!!!! I'm so excited that things are working out for you --- that's fabulous!

 

[Hojay]

Yes!!! I’d say 90% of guys wouldn’t speak to anyone like that, least of all someone they love. So happy you’re dating and having fun with new people. :)

 

[Sweetpea76]

Good for you! There is a world full of great guys out there for the picking... no use in an awesome woman settling for anything less!

 

[Mytime]

I’m glad your out dating and enjoying life. Seeing what you truly deserve in life. Happiness, no judgement a voice. To be treated with respect and care. To be treated the same way you treat other. How’s the pup doing? Anymore pictures?

 

[nursenurse]

There are worse things in life than being alone. Take some time and learn to love yourself again. Wishing you all the best, there is so much out there in the world to see, so many people to meet! The most important person in your life should be you. The rest is gravy.

 

[Abstract]

So so so glad for you. And so glad you are out of the situation you were in before.

 

[Pippi427]

Blurgh!

After two months of no contact I had to see him to get him to sign paperwork to sell the house.
Ugly cried like a small child afterwards.
He's learned absolutely nothing - he's repeating the pattern. He has a new girlfriend in a place some distance from here. He's neglecting everything at the house, including the horses and chickens to see her. He tried to manipulate me into feeling sorry for him because I'm making him homeless - which is bullshit because he has another house. He eventually admitted that he doesn't want to move back in there because its too far away from the new woman. Wish I had some way to warn her what she's in for.
So hurt, angry, sad, frustrated... Hate that I still think he's so damn sexy!
Just can't wait for the house to sell, him to move away and me not to need to have anything to do with him...

My ex did that, too. Had a new girlfriend moved in a month after we split. Some people never learn. and THAT POOR GIRL.