Relationship I’ve left him and he doesn’t care

[Sighs]

Things are going reasonably well. I’m SO enjoying just doing what I want when I want instead of what I’m told when I’m told!

He is being a bit of a dick about the property settlement. He seems to think that he should keep everything and that I should go with basically a few personal possessions. He is trying to manipulate me into feeling sorry for him. Instead it is enraging me. I’ve told him that every time he harassed me my offer to settle the property will go up. So far he’s really poked the bear once and I increased my offer by $20,000.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Good for you @Sighs! You've rolled over enough for that man.

 

[Justmehere]

Well done!!!

 

[Mytime]

Good for you @Sighs. I like the bear :)

 

[shimmerz]

I’m SO enjoying just doing what I want when I want instead of what I’m told when I’m told!

So very happy for your sense of freedom.

 

[Sighs]

Blurgh!

After two months of no contact I had to see him to get him to sign paperwork to sell the house.
Ugly cried like a small child afterwards.
He's learned absolutely nothing - he's repeating the pattern. He has a new girlfriend in a place some distance from here. He's neglecting everything at the house, including the horses and chickens to see her. He tried to manipulate me into feeling sorry for him because I'm making him homeless - which is bullshit because he has another house. He eventually admitted that he doesn't want to move back in there because its too far away from the new woman. Wish I had some way to warn her what she's in for.
So hurt, angry, sad, frustrated... Hate that I still think he's so damn sexy!
Just can't wait for the house to sell, him to move away and me not to need to have anything to do with him...

 

[Sweetpea76]

He's somebody else's problem now @Sighs. You've given him way more than he deserved... don't let him manipulate you anymore. He'll never change because he doesn't want to change. He'll just relationship-hop to get new caretakers, and he'll wear them all out too.

You deserve better. You've done your time hon.

 

[Justmehere]

Wow. What a JERK! Trying to manipulate his ex into supporting him living closer to his new partner and neglecting animals while he is at it?! UGH.

I hope the house sells soon and that you can enjoy your freedom from him all the more!

 

[blackemerald1]

@Sighs - there is nothing sexy about a abusive, manipulative user. Man or woman! You will bump into someone who is possibly more sexy and of better character when you are ready.

 

[Freida]

I'm so sorry you are going thru this.....and that he is trying to put the blame on you. It does not belong there. It belongs with him....the handsome sexy man with the angry and bitter inside.

Hopefully you will soon be free of him and can truly begin to heal

 

[Hojay]

Let your heart catch up to your head, sighs. It truly is incomprehensible how someone that outwardly may have been such a good catch, is truly this rotten. Two months later and already a new girlfriend? That’ll tell you all you need to know.

There is something wrong with him beyond ptsd or even other mental health issues. This is a character problem. These people usually end up very very alone. I feel sorry for the new woman, I truly am. Rest assured the cycle will repeat itself. Quicker this time, I’m assuming, as he hasn’t even had time to process all his junk from your relationship and he doesn’t sound like someone especially equipped at keeping himself together.

Don’t buy into his manipulation tactics.

 

[Friday]

So hurt, angry, sad, frustrated... Hate that I still think he's so damn sexy!
Just can't wait for the house to sell, him to move away and me not to need to have anything to do with him...

Courage, love.

And... damn straight, at the very LEAST could do is be sexy, since you had to lay eyes on him. ;) Let him go to the dogs after you’re done dealing with him. There’s a finite level of revolting any one person should have to deal with in a day. Since he’s determined to be an ass, at least he didn’t also look and smell like one. Small favors. Or large ones. Depending on how enclosed a space you’re in.