Relationship I’ve left him and he doesn’t care

[Freida]

I said “well all you had to do was treat me with respect and kindness and I would still be there but you didn’t so you’ll have to figure it out on your own”

LOVE THIS!

 

[Mytime]

Yep, you only speak the truth. There’s more to come. My guess is playing the victim. Sending support and hugs :)

 

[Sighs]

Yeah, I think he’s doing the whole “poor me” thing. But I am enjoying the freedom to do stuff like wear the jewellery I owned before I met him. (He said it was gaudy and might scratch the paint on his car. ) and making plans for a whole new life so...

 

[OrangeJulius]

might scratch the paint on his car.

:O_o: huh?



:hug::hug::hug:

 

[Freida]

d might scratch the paint on

I'm almost afraid to ask what in the world you were doing to his car!!????:blackeye::O_o::notworthy:

 

[Sighs]

He had this thing that I couldn’t wear rings ever because they might scratch the paint on the car doors as you open and shut them. Yeah, I never got it either but I stopped wearing rings because it wasn’t worth being screamed at and forced to take them off and put them in a pocket or handbag.

Shrug!

 

[Freida]

So tell me you are wearing rings on every single finger today!

 

[Mytime]

Plus rings on your toes :)

 

[Sighs]

This is the handmade ring that has personal meaning to me that he never allowed me to wear. Wearing it every day now!

 

[blackemerald1]

@Sighs - that is a beautiful ring and it must be such a relief to be able to wear it without condemnation.

I suspect wearing your rings, clothes and doing your hobbies without judgement or pre-approval will come slowly but surely from here on in.

I am sure he will start the pleading stuff with more intensity once he finds guilt will not work anymore.

I think you are very generous to walk away from the property which I am guessing you have some financial interest in without asking for a settlement. Have you sought legal advice regarding this aspect of exiting the relationship?

If you are not asking.... is it because you feel bad, or shamed about it? Because believe me... down the track you may regret not taking what is rightfully, morally and legally yours.

It is another aspect of leaving a relationship that you put all of yourself into. And it is another consequence that he will have to face because he accepted and received a great deal of support, assistance and also probably gained in a financial sense from your presence on the property. For instance he is having to make adjustments because you are no longer there to do menial jobs that he would have otherwise had to pay someone to do? You supported his lifestyle in many ways. He may not want to acknowledge this but it is true.

Just a thought from me.:hug:

 

[Sighs]

I have two years in which to pursue him for a property settlement if I choose to. He knows I can and I think not doing so at the moment will be the most effective way of ensuring his good behaviour.

I’m actually a lawyer myself so it wouldn’t cost me anything to chase him! Having said that, I know how awful family law proceedings can get and I don’t want that for either of us.

By the way, can anyone see how that ring could scratch the paint on a car???

 

[Hojay]

See, and there I was thinking you’re in the habit of wearing knuckle dusters. That would have been my only excuse for him to forbid you wearing them around his car. [insert eye roll]

Your jewellery is beautiful!