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I have been in therapy many times, starting with age 16. Most therapies weren't helpful at all, especially the therapies I did when I was younger. The issue was that 1. Therapists mostly didn't want to work on the stuff I carry from childhood. 2. They were focusing on the social anxiety...

The problem is that I'm surrounded by people who are so preoccupied with themselves. Not because I don't matter to them but because they have a disorder. I told nearly all of them that I'm not feeling well but it has no effect. I guess I need to be very blunt with them, because if I'm too...

I also need recovery time but the long periods are usually for people that aren't that close to me. Do you need recovery because you need to be "fit" around these people and can't show if you are not feeling well or is it in general that way? Was it always like that?

Thanks for the insight. I think it is a good exercise no matter how good or bad the relationships work. I only know a few people and they are close friends, so I already focus on the people that are important to me, I only wish I could distance myself more from my family. The last half year has...

I probably should have taken more time to clarify. So first of all "How do I care less" might sound offensive, english is not my native language, what I mean is "How do I feel less responsible". I also wrote this after an exhausting day of helping someone just to get more burdened by two...

It is unbearable. I told most of them that I'm not well but they are unable to be considerate of me. Despite knowing that I should say "no" more often I helped too many people and too much the last weeks. I think, and this is no exaggeration, that everyone I still know has ADHD. No offense to...

Thanks, but this wasn't the first bad experience ... It is really hard to find a good therapist and some are even damaging. Because of this it is even more important to have some knowledge that helps coping with these extreme situations.

Is it still a trigger then? For me it is a name. The first time it was a name plus the word and after that happend the name only was enough to trigger strange thoughts and anxiety. The worst is the feeling that he is there, which I know is impossible. A week ago my mother said the name and I...

I think that the problem is not with you, but with anyone who makes you feel like it would be that way. To me it is like gaslighting and I experienced it many times with non-political issues. But I don't want to assume bad intentions, it’s a way of suppressing problems because what's happening...

In a suicidal state your thoughts are constricted. There are fantasies of not being there anymore. Also inhibited aggression turned toward the self. What helped me was to focus on every aspect separately. It already helped to recognize the symptoms. It is important to take it very serious, but...

Not from the US but I would feel the same. It is a pretty normal reaction. I see no reason to sugarcoat it. If you're not feeling well right now, try to ignore it as much as possible. And when you're feeling better, seek out like minded-people.

I had a phone call with a friend, and she casually mentioned that her daughter said (the conversation was about a possible vacation) that whenever you're traveling with me, I always know the way and where everything is, so there's absolutely no need to worry or think about anything. I thought...

Don't push yourself if it makes you feel bad. It is ok if a topic is too much to handle at the moment or maybe you don't want to talk about it for years or forever, there is no law that says you have to do it. You can also talk about symptoms. You don't always need to talk in detail about...

That sounds like old feelings resurfacing due to a trigger. In that moment you're completely overwhelmed even though it doesn't really fit the situation. It's a normal reaction to abnormal experiences from the past.

I think it is difficult, but it is definitely worth it to talk with him about it to explore it, because it is such a strong and meaningful feeling for you, even without knowing if he would do it. I am not against or for it, that is your and the therapists decision. Maybe it takes out some...

I think the closest to what you call an IOP program is a "day clinic" here, psychiatric outpatient clinics where you stay from 8am to 4pm. I wanted to try it some months ago but after the phone conversation it was clear that it would be wrong. No trauma therapy, mostly group setting, large...

Yes, I always do that but it is complicated. There is only one clinic that comes in question and there is other stuff I have to discuss with them, if there are too many things that are complicated or unclear they might say I should not come. Usually people say that therapists will understand...

Therapists told me to attend a clinic for trauma therapy. I have social anxiety and I have had some bad experiences with group settings and clinics and I don't think any therapist will ever take me serious with this issue. They might think it is negative thinking or whatever but in the end it is...

I have it all the time, but mostly in the evening and at night. Interesting to see that other people suffer from it too. It began when I was triggered by something like 4 months ago. I wish I could rationalize it and make it go away, sometimes I get angry that these sounds make me anxious no...

Yes, I even thought about how dangerous she could be for me and still I asked her if she would take me as a client. I am really desperate but after the session was over I was relieved that it didn't work out with her. I live in Germany, so I don't have to pay for therapy, which is good because I...

I have been struggling for years to find a therapist. Today, I had another therapy appointment. At first, there were some positive aspects: she encouraged me to talk as much as I could and wanted to, acknowledged my inner tension, and took everything I shared seriously. She even brought up the...

I know several cases where women with ADHD were first diagnosed with BPD. This happens a lot, because symptoms can be so similiar and therapists usually barely know anything about ADHD. Problems regulating emotions, risk seeking behavior etc. can all be caused by ADHD. As others said PTSD and...

I had a horrible experience with a therapist, I already made a thread about it but I think I wasn't really able to explain why it was so bad. I make it short here: It was invalidating, condescending and retraumatizing. After that probatory/trial session I was suicidal. I had no concrete plans...

I questioned myself so much (and still do) that it lead to going full into triggers to prove to myself that I am exaggerating, just to get overwhelmed and feel like crap again, as if being well was suspicious (if I am in a state of feeling well I have a hard time to understand states that are...